(Mini) Intensive in West Haven, Connecticut!

If you cannot make it to a 5-Day Weekend Marriage Intensive in Florida, you NOW have an opportunity to attend a 2-Day "Mini-Intensive" at Gateway Christian Fellowship in New Haven, Connecticut!

Are you building an outrageously happy marriage? Are you completely frustrated in your marriage? Has there been adultery, verbal/emotional abuse, spiritual abuse?

Gateway is hosting a two-day marriage intensive with Joel & Kathy Davisson, authors of The Man of Her Dreams, The Woman of His and Livin’ It and Lovin’ It. Here, you will learn to transform a troubled marriage, develop deeper intimacy with your spouse, and find breakthrough to be outrageously happy together.

This intensive is also for soon to be married couples and/or singles who desire to be married and keep that bliss of being The Man of Her Dreams and The Woman of His beyond the honeymoon period.

Have you felt like you are at the end of your rope and cannot handle the stress of being in your marriage any longer?

Help is on the way. The Calvary has arrived!

Weekend Marriage Intensives are designed for marriages in crisis. We create an accelerated process over five days that gets to the core of your marriage issues quickly.  The most hopeless issues are turned around and divorces are often canceled. Couples who have literally hated each other have received astounding miracles of heart transformation at their Weekend Marriage Intensive. We are thrilled that couples are saved from divorce, HOWEVER

Our goal is for you to experience the HAPPINESS and JOY that God planned for you when he created the concept of marriage!  Marriage is NOT supposed to be a test of endurance. Marriage is God's #1 means of giving us a taste of heaven on earth when it is done right!  Very few of us are born with relationship skills that create a happy and healthy marriage.  These skills are learned and most of the time through our parents.  Sadly, most of us grew up seeing dysfunctional marriages from our parents.

The great news is that the skills needed to have an amazing marriage can be taught, and you can learn them.  We spend the time to show you, what a happy biblical marriage looks like.  You learn the skills, knowledge, and attitude to create a healthy marriage in your home.  And most importantly, how to be aware of any obstacles that may block your marriage goals.

We are NOT satisfied if you simply stay together as a result of this Weekend; that is NOT our goal!

If you DECIDE that you WILL NOT be satisfied until you are experiencing the happiest marriage that you know of, then we will stick with you through these easy-to-access follow-up opportunities until you are experiencing an OUTRAGEOUSLY HAPPY Marriage!

If this weekend and the follow-up do not work for you then NOTHING will. This is the Fork in the Road. If you have tried EVERYTHING else and nothing has worked this will work for you. If it doesn't at least you will know that you did everything possible.

Meet Joel and Kathy

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I am new here. I need advice on my family situation. I have been married to an unbeliever for 28 years. We have 3 children. My son who is 20 years old is in the house and has not worked in 6 months. On Saturday I came home from being out with my daughter and he immediately told us he needed help with the wheel barrel as he was cleaning up the yard. I went into the home and went to my sons’s room to tell him that his dad could use some help with the yard work. I knocked on the door, then opened it when he answered me.

I said that his dad was was working hard outside and could use his help. So I asked him. He got angry with me and said what the “f..... did I want “ and “get the “f..... out of his room. He said He had not asked him.

I told my husband what transpired and he did nothing. I’m still waiting for him to talk to my son and he hasn’t. How much time do I wait. This is not the first time and I’m afraid it won’t be the last .

I am also hypothesizing that she is actually getting Oxytocin from her family and friends from these phone exchanges throughout the day and I see that as a good thing as long as it's not distracting her from receiving it from her most important source, which is what I believe is happening here.  I'm open to all feedback and direction on this one. Thanks in advance.

5.LADIES, you too have a part to play:  PROACTIVELY RESPONDING TO AGAPE LOVE:  meaning his Words and Actions of LOVE.

   Also, you ladies may need to help with posing the progress. If the husbands are working full time, helping out at home and with the kids,      hopefully you will be able to check out the contest together but if not,ladies be willing to post the progress.  

6.This will be a 3 month contest.

   PRIZE: A "Happy wife," a $50 gift certificate to treat your Bride out to dinner AND a copy of Forrest Gumps book called

                                                    " 21 DAYS TO SAVE MY MARRIAGE".  ( Erik Matlock )

Their address To send cards and flowers or a financial donation is

Eric and Sue Vana

163 N. Jungle Rd

Murphysboro, iL, 62966

Or simply click here: http://joelandkathy.com/boards/index.php?/forum/72-girl-talk-and-help-and-input-for-singles/

This video explains more about Oxytocin..   and why women get addicted to facebook. The interaction releases oxytocin. Even posting on the forum, replying to people on a forum like GodSaveMyMarriageForums.com releases oxytocin. Interesting! 

I cant say anything about it right now, but is awesome!!!

He keeps preparing a table for us and its keeps getting better and better.

Rejoice with us and say or sing some praises to the Lord for the marriages are being healed and saved.

Halelujah!

Give us gladness in proportion to our former misery! *1

Replace the evil years with good. *2

Let us see your miracles again; *3

let our children see your glory at work. *4

And may the Lord our God show us His approval *5

and make our efforts successful.

Yes, make our efforts successful! *6

This is our goal:

1. To help couples find gladness in proportion to their current and former misery! Marriage is designed by God to be greatest source of happiness, joy and contentment in this earth realm, second only to our relationship with Him and the joy of our salvation. Marriage is meant to make you holy, yes, AND happy! Outrageously happy! *1

2. To enable a couple to get into the position where God can replace the evil years with GREAT years! *2

3. To help a couple see God's miracles in their life: *3

A. The miracle of transformation in character and a restored marriage.

B. The miracle of restoration for all children and others who have been harmed by the marriage dysfunctions. *4

4. To let children experience what it is like to have God's glory and favor in their home because their parents are so wonderfully in love and outrageously happily married. This brings healing to the wounds that the children have been subjected to through the years of marriage misery in the home. *4

5. To get God's favor on every home that receives this message. A great marriage ATTRACTS God's favor and Glory. A great marriage IS the greatest representation of the Glory of God in the earth. *5

6. We pray that our efforts, and the efforts of our helpers in this forum will be successful. *6

7. We pray that your efforts at entering into an outrageously happy marriage will be successful. *6

In order to accomplish these purposes, you have come to the correct ministry/forum/website! Avail yourselves of our books, DVD set, group phone mentoring and Weekend Marriage Intensive!

Where do you start?

Start with this forum, and also read our website at www.GodSaveMyMarriage.com

Order both books, The Man of Her Dreams/The Woman of His! volumes one and two. (Volume two is titled, "Livin' it and Lovin' it!" Book one has the red cover. Book two shows Joel and Kathy walking on a beach.) The two books in paperback total $32 plus s and h.

The two books also come in audio book if preferred. $35 and $55 respectively for the Four and Seven audio CD books - both read personally by Joel and Kathy

Order the 12 Hour DVD set. The cost of this is only $50. We don't charge much for anything that we do; we count on those who can do so, to give offerings. To give an offering, call Marsha at 386-547-5729. Your gifts are tax deductible.

If you feel like you need immediate intervention, to kick-start your miracle, then register for the Weekend Marriage Intensive by calling us at 386-206-3128. For details, go to the Itinerary page at our website.

You have found the right ministry to help YOU go from misery and hell on earth, to an outrageously happy marriage! - HEAVEN on earth!

This is the place. The time is NOW. For such a time as this.

He is going to keep us in the loop as the book progresses.  These are just some starting notes but I love it.. and I LOVE his translation of Genesis 1:26-27 !!!!    That is what we want!  A bunch of marriages with Silly Grins!

Here are the beginning seed thoughts. His doctor is going to be helping him to edit the book and help to keep him on the project. I can't wait to read more!

 

 

A book on marriage?   Who needs another one?  Go to almost any Christian bookstore and there are shelves of books devoted to marriage – so why am I being asked to write another one?  To answer this question, we need to go back several years when my wife Shirley and I had moved to a new home and joined a new church.

  

            Having previously been very involved in church leadership activities, we had decided to take a rest, but It did not turn out this way. The church had an “Older Married Couples Bible Study” and as the one leading it was moving to a new home, we were asked if they could use our home for a time.  I noted that while it was called a “Married Couples Bible Study” – in reality it was more like “Married Women’s Bible Study” as husbands rarely turned up.   A few weeks into this, the person leading the study did not turn up, so I took it.  This was no problem for me as I was a teaching prof. at our local community college.   Then the lady who led the study found she could not continue – and this left me ‘holding the bag’ as it were.

 

            I found the supplied “Bible Study Guide” was rather boring, I decided to dump it and take a serious look at what the Bible really had to say about marriage.  I used the standard engineering approach of going back to the beginning.  I started with Adam and Eve and how God designed their bodies for each other.  I noted that something that the church frowned on was God’s first command after Eve was made:  “Go and have fun and lots of sex”. ( Gen 1:27-28).

 

            Instead of going over the usual advice and counsel given to married couples, do this, do that etc.  I went into how our bodies and brains were designed for marriage,  how God created us so that in marriage, we could become, as the Bible States “as one”.

 

            The husbands started turning up.  More married couples joined and it was not long before our rather large living room was full.  Marriages, some which were heading for divorce, became alive and exciting again.   The group decided to change the name of the study to “The Silly Grin Club” because that is what married couples had within weeks of joining us.   So many wanted to join that for a time, we had two meetings a week.   Marriages became exciting, and as our minister later told me,  men who had been into pornography, were no longer interested in it.   

 

            After a few years, there was a change of minister who used his ‘new broom’ to reorganize the church to his liking and most of the church/home groups, including these bible studies came to an end.   While Shirley and I have also moved on,  some who were part of the group, and those who have read the papers and notes used during these studies, have been telling me that all this information must not be lost.   This came to a head, when a nurse came to our home to look after my wife Shirley, who was recovering from a back injury, commented on our marriage, and also read some of my notes.  She became excited and told me that the information is very very important, that there are many who need to know all this and that I must put it into a book.  Our family doctor offered to critique and with her expertise, keep me on track, so I no longer had any excuse to procrastinate.

 

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Both man and women are designed by God to become ‘one’ in order to be really complete.

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            I was born into a family who encouraged taking a close look at anything we took an interest in.  One of the reasons for this was that in many cases, what is taken as fact is often based on an ‘opinion or theory’ – and is still accepted as fact even when, at a later time, this ‘opinion/theory’ is proved to be wrong.

 

For example: The ‘fact’ that the public has been  told, that as the glaciers at the North and South poles melt, the level of the oceans will rise and cover much of the Earth.    The truth is that Ice takes a greater volume than water and so the water level does not change as the ice melts.  Filling a glass of water almost to the top and then dropping in a few ice cubes easily proves this.  You can see that the water level in the glass does NOT change as the ice melts.

 

I took a close look at what both the Church and the Bible had to say about marriage.   What I quickly realized was that much of what is understood and taught about marriage by the Church is based on incorrect translation and ‘church politics’.    When a correct biblical understanding of marriage is combined with knowledge about how our bodies and brains are designed, a totally different picture of marriage appears.    As the  “Silly Grin Club” began to apply what we learned to their own marriages – their marriages became alive and exciting.    Also exiting was that their children, seeing the change in their parents, wanted the same when they got married. 

 

Both my wife Shirley and I are qualified marriage and family counsellors, but in reality a marriage counsellor is more like a fireman – helping put out the fires of marriage problems.    With so many marriages in serious trouble,  there had to be a cause.  Also with so many of the marriages of the clergy being in trouble, it did not appear that the church had any real answer.

 

            When things are going wrong with a machine and one cannot find out how to put it right – there is the engineering maxim “As a last resort – read the instructions”.  While it is true that in some cases, the instructions were not read,  often it a case that the instructions cannot be fully understood before knowing  something about the machine first.      This seemed logical, and so I decided to study “the machine” -  How our bodies and brains work – and to “re-read the instructions”.  What I found was  a complex system of both body and brain designed bring a man and a woman together in the first place, and to make them ‘one’. 

 

The amazing results of what we found as this knowledge was applied to the marriages of ‘The Silly Grin Club”  is what this book is all about.

 

A white guy breaks into a car and a black guy breaks into a car. Same location. Broad daylight. HUGELY different reactions.

Remarkable.

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Blessings!

Joel and Kathy

Congratulations! No award or anything - but kind of cool to be the 1000th person to register on the forum!

Yes, we do want to give some awards out for some things. Fastest learner (Largeone50) and some other awards - but we don't know when this will happen. Someday... Welcome to our world... sometimes things just perculate for a while!

We love our couples - you are all friends. Not just people we have helped. You are our FRIENDS.

Years ago, BEFORE our marriage healing, we had some prophetic words.

One was "I brought you out of the fire. Now I will take you back into the fire to bring others out."

(Remember, God's prophetic words often have time inferences that are different than ours. Consider that Issaih said, "unto you a child is born today" - in that case, "today" was 2000 years later. God often says thing for the future as if they are already done. When we got this prophetic word, we were still IN the fire of a serious marriage issues - but the Word was "I brought you out of the fire" as if it were already a fact.)

In God's mind, the future IS a fact. So prophetic words often say what is to be in the future as a present or past fact.

A second Word that we received in this same time was "I have surrounded you with an entirely new set of friends. I see you surrounded by many new friends."

HELLO! Here we are. We are LIVING these prophetic words -and SO ARE YOU! YOU are part of what God was talking about. God chose YOU to be impacted by what He wanted to do in us -and WE are impacted by what God wanted to do in YOU.

We are all walking smack dab in the middle of God's prophetic words for our lives.

Even if you have never received a prophetic word, and even if you don't believe in it, YOU were included in God's plan.

God knows YOUR name! God knows YOUR address!

Okay - now we are going to Jay and Christy's house to have New Year's Day lunch with Jay and Christy, Doug and Kelley, Robert and Liliana and Tom and Amy (plus our kids and theirs) - all four of these are couples that we talk about at the Weekend Marriage Intensives!

Christy had the original dream (literal night time dream while sleeping) of seeing a cruise boat with an large banner on it saying "Intimate Moments with Joel and Kathy". This was before we had ever personally been on a cruise. We did not even know if we would like a cruise!

Now we have been on a few and we LOVE CRUISES! What a great way to vacation!

An original, framed portrait of Shekinah.

Please go and see this portrait of Shekinah that was painted by Joanna - the daughter of Rebecca and Humblepie. She has it posted on her blogspot portrait gallery.

Joanna is one of the most talented painters we have ever seen - and I think 17 years of age?

http://joannamarieartwork.blogspot.com/

When you visit our home, you will see this picture displayed in our living room, above the stairs, easily seen by everyone who enters our home.

On the seminars, we had a call a couple weeks ago to set up a seminar for February of 2015. That is great, for NEXT year.

TODAY, before noon, our phone rang twice! The first call was from a MAJOR television program that we have been waiting to hear from for NINE years!  We do a phone interview tomorrow as a first step to being on the program!

Then our phone rang from a man ordering a dozen of Richard Sigmund's Heaven books. Turns out he was a teacher and now mentor to a MAJOR, (major in good character too!) minister!  He is going to introduce the minister to our website and books and see about us getting together!

IT IS HAPPENING!

If you prefer, you can use www.joelandkathy.com/boards  

Everyone - help us advertise the fact that help is available at www.GodSaveMyMarriageForums.com  !!!!

I think to write about it everyday!

I talked to Carole the other day and I received an e-mail and was able to download our cruise packet. I think I got it all. I printed everything out including luggage tags etc. and understand that having the VIP Fun Pass completed makes boarding easier.

Glad to hear Marsha has a roommate........Sounds like we're all set!

Looking forward to meeting everyone and having a wonderful time!

Post number 114 tells about the Olympic Champions in Qivana

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Come join with us in watching Joel lose 45lbs.

He started this journey at 225. He cut back on his eating for 2 weeks ang got down to 222.6lbs.

The GOAL is 177lbs.

As of today, he is at 218.4 and is using the METABOLIC SYSTEM.

He is enjoying this journey so far. ....as he laughs.

Last week in Orlando, with our HELPER couples who came to visit, the JOURNEY got messed up, but it is not healthy to lose more than 2lbs a week anyways.

He ate more popcorn than what he should have last night while we played cards with our kids AND he STILL dropped a 1/2lb.

NOT BAD!

If anyone wants to join Joel in this journey of losing weight with him (from a distance) here is a link for information on this METABOLIQ.

I will be giving a daily or every few days account on this JOURNEY and more than likely give encouraging words along the way, as ususally I can't help myself.

I love to encourage people.

You CAN lose weight, if you WANT to.

You CAN do ALL things through CHRIST who strengthens you.

Go to this link and watch the video and listen to the audio of the doctor who created "Metaboliq". It resets your metabolism back to that of a 20 year old. It is not a "fad" diet.. it is something that Joel actually likes!

http://www.theqtrainer.com/metaboliq.html

If you would like to buy product after checking the audio and videos out, you can call Ginger (ladies) or Dave (men). Tell them that Joel and Kathy sent you!

Ginger 352-233-9494

Dave 386-266-7252

You only use the products for 3 and a half months. After that, you can just eat the way the doctor teaches which is pretty easy to do. You don't have to keep buying product. How many diet plans teach you to live without their product and keep losing weight when you stop buying from them?

Metaboliq

 

A revolution in weight loss is launched by Qivana

 

Qivana has launched the most revolutionary weight loss and weight management system ever formulated. The system is created by Dr. Donald Layman, Dean Emeritus of Nutrition at the University of Illinois. He has been studying the metabolic syndrome and obesity for the last 30 years. He is world-renowned for his research in these areas and is respected as the world's leading authority on healthy weight loss and long term weight management.

 

 

This revolutionary system is not driven by gimmicks. It is driven by the most extensive human clinical trials ever conducted in this area. If you understand that getting to and maintaining long term a healthy weight is perhaps the most important thing that you can do to impact your health, you will be blown away by the following information on this great new life altering product system.

Blessings and much favor,

Kathy and Joel

This first one is from a few months ago. Number two and three below are the recordings from March 27, 2010 that we have been encouraging everyone to listen to. Please listen to these three recordings in order.

This is priority call number one.

Here is a must listen call for those who have been involved for a while. Let's keep these messages firm and clear - this is the way to go from a marriage of misery to an outrageously happy marriage. Let's make sure that everyone understands these things fully.

http://jk_calls.s3.amazonaws.com/december2009/J_K_Special_Teaching_12162009.mp3

Kathy and Joel each do a monologue that is very important. It is probably 30 minutes in - but when you hear Kathy start, be sure to listen to all of her and then all of what Joel shares. There is an important question at the end of Joel's talk from "BobG" that helps to clarify some of the things said in Joel's talk.. so listen clear until that question is answered.

We cover things like "Does a man have a voice?" "How do intelligent adult couples communicate?" "What is the 'short end of the stick'?" and how does a man and a woman get healed in the context of marriage.

These things are quite important to understand.

I am in the process of talking with a company right now for the design of our

Happy Wife Happy Life t shirts AS well as the

Happy Wife (Rhinestone Bling) t-shirts for the ladies.

This is quite exciting for me as I have been wanting to move forward in getting these done.

I should have more information on the tonight or tomorrow and they should be available for purchase in about 2 weeks

I'll let you know the prices later today or tomorrow.

Ladies, this will be a nice quality t-shirt....with Bling. Hurray! Wooo Hooo

The t-shirt will say "Happy Wife" on the front with double (red) hearts above the letter "i"

on the back....in Rhineshone it will say "BestMarriage.com"

The MEN'S t-shirt, will be "HAPPY WIFE

HAPPY LIFE" in Metal.

On the back: BestMarriage.com

For those who are interested in purchasing a shirt or two, please let me know. Hopefully I will have pics available as well.

Thank you, this is exciting.

Kathy of Joel and Kathy

YES, it is TRUE, I struggle with a 300+ pound South African guy for luggage, thinking it was MINE. Ohhhh my. lol

First of all, Joel went looking for a luggage cart, so he wasn't around when this first happened....

So, I saw this PINK luggage and thought, that must be mine, there couldn't be another PINK one.

AS I struggled to pull this HEAVY thing off the conveyor, this man comes over and helps me....so I thought he was Helping me.

Realizing this luggage was his,he proceeds to take it from me, but I won't let go. Still thinking he is being a help to me, he looks at the name on the tag and says "are you so and so? I not understanding him, said, huh???? Looking for my glasses, he asked me again and I said no. He then proceeds to tell me, it was his, but I didn't understand him. :rotfl: and I didn't let go.

At this point, he lets go of the luggage and I think "oops, its not mine, I need to put it back on the conveyor. I am struggling, really struggling to pick this up and HE IS NOT HELPING. I think...Man, he helped me take it off, it would be nice if he helped me put it back on. Then i thought, he must have a bad back, that makes sense, and I continue to try and pick this up.

He was thinking, "it's mine, I'm not going to help her put it back up there, so he just let me struggle.

Still Not realizing the luggage was HIS, I kept struggling to get it up on the conveyor belt but couldn't when FINALLY JOEL SHOWS UP. WHOO HOOO. HURRAY!

Joel comes over and the man says something to Joel and Joel laughs and says, oh, this is yours and starts to laugh. I was soooo embarrassed. [smilie=to funny.gif]

My "supine nature" kicked in and I didn't know what to do. laugh, apologize, both, etc. So, I said, i'm sorry, I didn't understand you. He replies with "i was talking english..." in his very South African accent.

The man, the whole time was thinking, it's mine, I'm not going to help her put it back up there and HE DIDNT. LOL

We waited for our next luggage, which was blue. When Joel pulled it off the conveyor, he asked the gentleman, " is THIS one yours too??? and they started to laugh Joel just had to say it. All the while, people are watching ME!~.

When this struggle was going on, I didn't even realize it WAS a struggle.

I had been up and rolling since 6am, long day on the flights and then THIS.

too funny. This all happened within my first hour of being in Las Vegas.

Not to leave out, when we waled into the airport, there was one of those huge tv deals adverting a "strip tease" club...lol There was a girrl on the tv, doing a strip tease. THEN, the HUGE posters.......many of our wives would be covering their husbands eyes and guiding them.

We laugh now, but back in our bad days, I would have stressed out over all of this. lol

I can't wait to see what the rest of the time here holds....besides the HEAT.

IT'S OVER 103 DEGREES....can anyone say "SPEED TANNING."

IT'S 9:30pm right now, but it's 12:30am at home...

We aren't speaking till Saturday evening...so we are going to take tomorrow to go and WALK (no car) the strip and see what is what.

Well, I am exhausted. It has been a long week with the Intensive and then packing to come here...then the travel....

time to chill. Nite. Thanks for laughing with me, I sure needed that. [smilie=to funny.gif]

Blessings to all my friends, chat with you another time. nite.

PS. If you live in the Las Vegas area, let us know, we love meeting people.

Kathy of Joel and Kathy

If anybody is bored or needs some background music, you can dial into Praise FM - 89.5 in Naples / Ft. Myers to hear my gift.

If you are far away, you can still listen on the internet at.

PrasieFM

Blessing everyone......TimothyPaul