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C2

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    Dory, I’m not sure why I have to approve your comment but I approve. I remember you saying something about a rain barrel a year or so ago and I got one. I love it. I have lots of extra rosemary in my garden if anyone in Florida wants fresh herbs. Or I can put some in the mail if anyone wants to send an address. C2

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    I love photography and gardening too! My favorite subjects? My kiddos!

  3. No one ever quotes Job but this Godly man suffered greatly and he left us a gold mine of living words and empathy for the suffering. HD, Eeyore is hurting. Job 12:11 has a good quote: “The ear tests the words it hears, just as the mouth distinguishes between foods.” You seem to know the right things to say but Eeyore’s ear is picking up on your inward focus, the good guy image, the half-hearted effort. Michael said on the call last night, you can’t do this half-way. For this to work you have to be all in. Use Jesus as our example. He didn’t climb up on the cross and then change his mind and climb back down and then decide, I guess I’ll do it after all and climb back up. HD, are you all in? DW and I just went through a downward slide for the last 3 days. I kept pointing things out to him and he kept dismissing me. I was getting increasingly agitated. If I had to describe the details it would all sound like little picky nothings. The truth is, my ear was picking up on the attitude. My ear tests the words it hears. This morning after three bad days I called DW and after the first sentence out of his mouth I knew my kind and loving DW was back. His greeting toward me was enthusiastic. It was heartfelt. I could tell he had pushed through something. HD, trust Eeyore’s ear. She knows you better than anyone. You’re resisting something she’s pointing out. You have excuses and reasons for the flesh things you do. Even if you don’t speak them you’re still thinking them and it exudes out of you. You’ve been called for a higher calling than that. You can’t have a relationship with God if you’re not having a relationship with your wife and lover. Your influence will reach out and touch others for good once you push through this. The penalty of sin without Jesus is eternal separation from God. The penalty of sin now is emotional separation from your wife. Something needs to be dug out HD. Don’t let Satan whisper his lies in your ear. Your wife is your best friend. Trust her barometer. You’re a tropical storm heading for a hurricane if you continue to draw strength from the wrong source. C2
  4. HD, if you know what to do why aren’t you doing it? See, we’re not going to let you off the hook just because you recognize what you did. You answered your own question: Now go do something to make it right. Suggestions, a little backrub, a little shoulder rub, something that Eeyore has told you helps relieve stress for her. We don’t want her having another migraine. If she’s not able to relax yet, it may be because you’re just not getting it. Trust her instincts, she’ll know when you really get it. Keep pursuing her until you get it figured out and win her smile back. Now that’s how you know you’ve arrived!
  5. Kay, I know you are busy with your life but I feel like I have lost a friend. I truly appreciate all the time you gave to this ministry and all the times you stood in the gap for me with DW. When he was being abusive to me you saw through it and took the hit for me. You understood me and gave me strength when mine was all gone and I will be forever grateful. C2
  6. Yes. This reminds me of a situation when we eat out at those restaurants that have two sets of doors. DW opens the first door for me and then if he holds the door open for the next couple, I either have to open the 2nd door for myself or let the other couple in line ahead of us. To me, the polite thing for DW to do is to hand the door off to the people behind us so that he can open the second door for me. Otherwise you can end up letting 10 people in line ahead of yourself and waiting an extra ½ hour in line. In other states I have lived in this could probably be handled differently because the favor would be returned but in Florida, well, manners are a little more, shall we say, taken advantage of. So, if you must pick and choose, PICK YOUR WIFE. Maybe you could look a little tiny bit put out at those other people. I can’t imagine the usher cutting you out if you were walking close enough to Eeyore to look like you were with her. We have gone in fast food places where DW would stand so far away from me in line, no one would even know we were together. To me it was a subconscious passive way of him disconnecting from me. I’m pretty sure when a guy wants to show off his girl he doesn’t keep his distance. HD, do you consider yourself a pretty fair judge? Because I agree with Eeyore, it isn’t fair and it isn’t logical for you to take things out on her when someone else did the irritating behavior. So really, what is going on? Were you already irritated with her about something else she corrected you on earlier, or is the closeness just a little too uncomfortable for you and it’s time to break the bond? C2
  7. Dory, have you considered getting on the call tonight? You two are always sharing your strength. It is your turn to get some back. C2
  8. Hey BH, I like the way you gave a serious answer before you joined in the fun. And the rest of the story is… After the ditch digging at Looney’s which WOULD be done by 9am , all the taskers could get together and go fishing . The passives could set up in one spot and stare at their poles while the aggressives would change spots every two minutes working it. As long as there was no communication going on , they’d all come home with a mess of fish and a big smile on their face. Eveything would be great until someone communicated and then all h…. would break loose and then to get over it they’d have to set up another tasking time followed by a fishing expedition. And then one day the communication thing would happen again and….hey, isn’t tasking great? C2
  9. That was good Looney!!! Could I get you to post that on my string only change the name to DW??? It will hit him better coming from you than if I copy paste it there. DW is the king of tasking. Can you imagine having all these tasking guys in one room at one time? They'd have everything done by 9:00 in the morning and then what would they do for the rest of the day???
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