I am looking for some advice. We have been married for 30 years. I found out 8 years ago that my husband had been looking at porn and fantasizing throughout our marriage. He promised to stop, he got counseling, read the books- I found out 2 months ago that he had stopped porn but was using female images to fantasize. I was so upset, I insisted he leave. I could feel when he was fantasizing so he learned if he did it when I was sleeping, he could get away with it. He has been reading J&Ks books, says he has really changed this time. Though when he confesses, he manipulates the truth, it