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Eeyore

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  1. Yes, that is very true. I don't know how he did it... pretended to be invested in me and in this ministry. But as you pointed out, God used his voice to reach others, even when his heart was not truly in it. Thanks so much for the encouragement. It has been a rough road, but as Kathy says, I need him (like he is right now), like I need another hole in my head!!
  2. Well, it has been a while since I have posted anything on here. Here is the truth about what is going on with us... On September 2nd, Steve and I brought out daughter back to college. We drove two separate cars, as she had a lot of furniture to move into her new suite at college, and her car had recently died. On the way home, we stopped for dinner, and I knew something was up. About five minutes before this, I was hit with an overwhelming urge to ask Steve if he still loved me. It was so strong that I could barely breathe. I knew the answer. I did not even need to ask... When we
  3. Once again, I agree with MJ. He needs to take some action to get things turned around. Right now you need to read the books and get on the women's call. Don't put a lot of pressure on yourself. Just remain teachable and keep posting and listening. There is so much help here. Maybe read some other threads on the forum. Expect him to do the things that you ask... post, read, call... and take it one step at a time.
  4. Hi there. I agree with MJ on her advice. I can relate to all of what you posted as my husband was there for years as well. I don't have a lot of time to post right now but I want to welcome you and to tell you that there is hope. Hang in there and get on the conference calls. You have found the right place!
  5. Hi Overwhelmed, Have not heard from you in a while, so I wanted to check in and see how you are doing. Please keep us posted. Praying for you, dear friend!! Hang in there! Eeyore
  6. I completely agree with how you are doing things. I know what you are talking about with not getting sucked into the craziness, where you don't even remember what the discussion was about. I think that interacting so that he will not get suspicious is a good idea. Then you can shut down and see where it goes. You are doing such a great job. I know that a lot of my own frustration came from the fact that I never had the strength to do what you are doing. But God worked things out for us without us having to go down that road. But HD did not throw down as your husband has. That is such a
  7. Good for you! You did a great job. Hang in there and stay strong and don't let him drag you down. So proud of you. Coming from a place of strength is the only hope for him and your marriage, and really, for you. Stay connected and keep us posted. Don't give up on the process. He may not like it and that is his choice. You are still doing the right thing.
  8. Hi there, Just checking in to see how you are doing today? Did you discuss getting on the calls with your husband? What was his reaction/willingness? Please keep us posted! Praying for you!
  9. Good for you! You are coming from such a place of strength. I am proud of you. And I am so glad that you found this ministry. You are right, these things (finding this ministry) don't "just happen". God has you here for a reason... and you need to be strong and get support no matter what your husband decides, as you said. It is the biggest blessing to have walked this out so we can share our story and our struggles with other people. We are far from perfect, and we still have our struggles. But being transparent not only helps others, but it helps us as well. There are a lot of thin
  10. Hi Overwhelmed, I am going to respond to your husband here, because I am not sure if he has his own thread... First of all, you cannot apologize for how your wife is feeling. What she is feeling is exactly that, what she is feeling. It is not wrong or right. It is valid and important and needs to not be dismissed. Stating that something is "not my reality" does not support or validate your wife. It is telling her that she is wrong. You are trying to do it in a "gentle" way, but it is still what you are saying. Quite a bit of blame in this statement, don't you think? You may say
  11. Well, it is painful to read what you have written. It just backs up that in reality I don't matter. You can think about me, but when it comes to interacting with me, especially in our physical/intimate life, I might as well be invisible. So sad... We decided on two days each week that we would ml, so that you could "do" even if you did not "feel like it". If you don't remember what those days are, I can remind you. The deal is this... if you don't initiate, then the next night you sleep on the couch. If you decide to initiate that night, you can. But you start on the couch. This will
  12. Thanks for your reply, and what you share is awesome! Even though we have been at this for "years", we are far from perfect and still on this journey. Ya know? And while it is so easy to not ask for help, since we are supposed to have it all together (my thoughts here). But that is a trap that I have seen others fall into, and it is not a healthy one. If we cannot be open and transparent, then we should not be helping others. Right? This is exactly where I am. This is so awesome!! I tend to try to "crawl inside Steve's head" and figure out WHY all the time. Instead I just need to
  13. Hi 1love, It sure sounds like things are turning around. I can so relate to some of the things that you posted about feeling... not feeling good enough. I am struggling with that now, but am working on it. It is so frustrating that our husbands don't make it a priority to turn those messages around! Why would they allow those thoughts to be in our minds for even one day, if they truly understood the depth of the pain and damage they cause. Sorry, I am just venting and sharing instead of saying much to encourage you. But I just wanted to let you know that I can relate and that I am VER
  14. Well, our anniversary went wonderfully! He took me to the same cabin that we had stayed in three years ago. We went to some antique stores and did some outlet shopping. Had a wonderful dinner at an inn nearby. Things continue to be really good for us, with the exception of our physical relationship. We have times when things are good (more frequent than scarce) but never frequent or consistant. I really felt like I turned a huge corner over our anniversary, between conversations and physical interactions, I finally felt like I was good enough and able to maybe start healing in that area
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