JoelandKathy Posted February 1, 2009 Report Share Posted February 1, 2009 Dear Joel and Kathy,What this weekend has meant to me is Hope! Knowledge! Understanding healing and growth! By helping us understand God's plan for us and what roles we should be taking - initiator/responder . No one is boss (!) is very freeing and gives us both hope. There is hope for LaDonna because she can see that I now have the knowledge about where I am, what I should be doing and who I need to become. There is also hope for her because much of what she has been doing was the right thing. She now has validation that it was right and she can continue to do what she's been doing. There is hope for me because now I know what I need to do. I need to grow up and be the initiator and I'm not just shooting in the dark, blindfolded. Healing and growth have begun and now I have knowledge to help me to get where I need to be so that our marriage will become outrageously happy. Before the Weekend Marriage Intensive, I was in denial. Now, through knowledge, understanding and the work of the Holy Spirit, I have come to realize how much has been my fault and how little has been her fault. I am looking forward to the outrageously happy life! Ted (of Ted and LaDonna)Florida Dear Joel and Kathy, This weekend was very validating for me and very freeing. I think that one of my issues was that bad teaching about patriarchy (the husband is the boss!) filled me with resentment when I needed to tell Ted what I needed from him. Now I can totally let that go because I am not only free to tell him - I SHOULD be telling him! This is so validating and now my husband believes me and understands me! Yay! I feel like recovery is going to be a sure thing for us. Thank you, Joel and Kathy! Ladonna (of Ladonna and Ted) Four days after the Weekend Marriage Intensive, we heard from LaDonna. The title of the e-mail was "Nominating Ted for fastest learner!" Joel and Kathy, Last night was wonderful! Ted came home with his own typed up list, which he read to me with deep emotion. (He got right on it when I forwarded him your reply to me.) We talked about the list and we both cried and forgiveness flowed freely. We also (suprisingly) talked about the deep shame he felt on his first day in American public school when his family was here on furlough. God did a healing in my MAN's heart last night, and it was so cool! Then he wanted to apologize to our son, Sol, for the previous night. He called Sol in to where we were, and honestly made things right. Sol was *happy* to see his Dad live the gospel in front of him. Both Sol and I have great respect for Ted standing up and doing the right thing. Yay! Ted was up early, worshipping the Lord and praying. He had another breakthrough yesterday on his way to work. In his words, for the first time he actually heard the words to the songs on the Christian radio station (though he listens everyday) and he had a wonderful time with the Lord in the car that morning. Yay! Yay! Also, we are keeping up with ALL of our home work. I hope he doesn't mind if I tell you that our first reading assignment, he read aloud to me while I took a bubble bath. Now that is multi-tasking at its finest! Yay! Yay! Yay! Praising the Lord for your ministry and asking the Lord to bless you exceedingly abundantly beyond all you can ask or think. LaDonna (of Ladonna and Ted) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God's Precious Princess Posted February 9, 2009 Report Share Posted February 9, 2009 Also, we are keeping up with ALL of our home work. I hope he doesn't mind if I tell you that our first reading assignment, he read aloud to me while I took a bubble bath. Now that is multi-tasking at its finest! Yay! Yay! Yay! Praising the Lord for your ministry and asking the Lord to bless you exceedingly abundantly beyond all you can ask or think. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU BOTH!! It is SO refreshing to hear about the miracles that take place during the weekend - albeit many of them don't get "their miracle" until Sunday, right before the Intensive ends ~ but... God is NEVER late & rarely early...but He will ALWAYS be faithful & ON-TIME!!! So often, the miracle that we've been praying, hoping, and asking God for, doesn't come until the 11th hour and 59th minute!!!! God LOVES to keep us guessing, I guess because it strengthens our faith and causes us (if we choose) to wholly depend upon Him, for the outcome, whatever the issue is!!! And nope, girlfriend - your lover-boy giving you a bath AND doing your HW at the same time seems like the PERFECT, made-in-Heaven combo (at least to me!)!!!! YOU GO GIRL!!!!! AND TO HUBBY - MAKE SURE THAT THIS IS A LIFE CHANGE - NOT JUST A FEW WEEKS/MONTHS - BUT A LIFETIME!!!! THAT IS THE ONLY WAY THAT YOU WILL EVER REBUILD TRUST WITH YOUR BRIDE AND END UP, EVENTUALLY, ON THE "OTHER SIDE", LIVING YOUR OHM - WHAT YOU ONLY EVER DREAMED OF BEFORE, IS NOW CLOSER TO REALITY THAN YOU THINK - IF ... IF ... YOU DECIDE EACH MORNING WHEN YOU WAKE UP THAT YOU WILL KILL YOUR FLESH & ALL DESIRES OF YOUR FLESH...AND THAT YOU WILL WALK UPRIGHT, WITH CHRIST, TREATING YOUR BRIDE AS WONDERFULLY AS CHRIST TREATS HER - AND DO NOT - I REPEAT - DO NOT SLACK OFF!!!!!! DON'T LET THE DEVIL WHISPER IN YOUR EAR THINGS LIKE "SHE'S TOO NEEDY", OR, "THE MISERY THAT LANDED YOU BOTH AT J&K's INTENSIVE CAN'T POSSIBLY BE ALL YOUR (TED) FAULT!!!!! I CAN'T STRESS ENOUGH, STAY OUT OF THE FLESH, B/C THAT IS EXACTLY WHERE SATAN WANTS YOU TO BE, B/C (HE AIN'T THAT STUPID), LADONNA MUST SURELY HAVE SOME OWNERSHIP IN THE DEMISE OF OUR MARRIAGE..." Anything that sounds even remotely close to that, just always remember, it's Satan - would Christ say/think/do things like that to your (& His too!) bride??? Given the choice, which I have been, I'd MUCH RATHER LISTEN TO J&K with their God-breathed WISDOM, than listen to the enemy who's nothing more than a SLIMY, STINKY, NO-GOOD, ROTTEN SORRY EXCUSE OF A CREATION!! Hang in there guys - sounds like you'll do FANTABULOUS!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God's Precious Princess Posted February 9, 2009 Report Share Posted February 9, 2009 Geeze Louise! Apparently my inability to sleep last night made my sloppy in my typing. Tired, apparently, but couldn't sleep - not fun!!!! I meant to say "given the choice, I'd much rather follow J&K's teachings than anything that Satan would try to throw us as a 'bone' - even if it's disguised in the form of a 'godly teaching'..." Hope that made sense???? I am truly happy for you both & am excited to hear how things progress for you both! God's blessings!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shadowspring Posted March 2, 2009 Report Share Posted March 2, 2009 Thanks for all your good wishes for us, Precious Princess! Things are going very well right now, BUT when Ted has decided never to ask me again if I'm happy, since last time I said I was truly happy he quit. Instantly. So today, even though I am starting to feel safe again and relax into security and love, I told him, "I'm happy, but I'm not THAT happy!" Thanks to Joel and Kathy for helping us over that nasty bump. I think (I hope) we are going to try living bump-free for the near future at least. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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