JoelandKathy Posted May 20, 2009 Report Share Posted May 20, 2009 The following is copied from Joyful 50's regular topic at http://www.joelandkathy.com/boards/viewtopic.php?p=43284#43284 Hello everyone, Blessings!!!! PRAISE REPORT Things are going better ...... 'There is light the end of the tunnel...... Jan, we did not go to the May Intensive...We need to get some other things in our life together before we go. IS everyday smoothe sailing?? Not yet ...but every marriage has challenges.....My husband is listening to the audio books and he is now TALKING and not just LISTENING on the conference calls LET ME TELL ALL OF YOU out there needing HOPE..... It is HERE!!!!!! You need to get on the conference calls. THEY HELP SO MUCH!!!!!! The moderators are such a blessing and GOD uses them in such a MIGHTY WAY!!! I have been on the calls since March, I believe I have been on every call since MARCH 15th ( they are on Mon Tues Wed and Thursdays) Some of the calls have lasted 5 - 6 hours...It is SUCH A SOURCE OF SUPPORT. I am on Eastern time so my time, they can last till 4:30Am. I don't sleep well so it is a GREAT way to pass the night... If you have called in and never spoken up and talked about your marriage> PLEASE>>>>>> you need to call and talk, then listen.. then talk, then LISTEN.... when you have told your story..... LISTEN some more... because there is SO MUCH WISDOM to be given to you ......... we learn from one another........Each time I hang up from a call I feel stronger.......The calls give me the strength to even cry now when I need to...... On the calls you are able to speak all those feelings that you feel you cannot utter in your own home to your own husband... There are no eggshells to walk on in these calls!!!!........When people on the calls say, " I care".. you know they mean it from the bottom of their hearts.. Everyone on the calls become "family", we all have something in common.... WE ALL NEED HEALING...... The enemy wants you to keep silent. When I first got on the forum and calls I was encouraged to tell ALL my story and to leave nothing out.. You see, if you "EXPOSE" those things the enemy wants to keep you quiet about, IT EXPOSES him for who he is and what he is trying to do.... Each time I told more of my story.. I got stronger...my voice got stronger.. I was able to stand against those things that the enemy was causing in my marriage.... When someone tells you to do something that might make you think.. "Oh, I can't do that.. Trust me , they know what they are talking about........Swallow hard and just tell yourself.. "I can do this"!!! I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST THAT STRENTHENS ME!!!!..........It might not makes sense to you .. But just trust them!!!!!...... Joel and Kathy and their ministry are literally saving one marriage at a time... I found this ministry March 15th 2009 , I never thought in 2 short months things would be better by now... Of course my husband doesn't have it fully yet.. But he is NOT Verbally or emotionally abusing me now... DO YOU UNDERSTAND HOW HUGE THAT IS??? Of course you do He had verbally and emotionally abused me for about 6 years... When I think back to really how depressed I was just 8 weeks ago... IT blows my mind...... Since he began reaching out to the LORD again and began reading the "WORD" and talking to other men on the calls...... his whole attitude has changed. I can "SEE" and "FEEL" him changing ....... HAS he totally died to self??? UM NO, NOT YET, I have discovered that he has MANY mother /son issues. I found out this has caused BIG ISSUES in our marriage......Aslo ask any of the moderators to explain "arrested behavior". IF you need to know more about this ...Ask Joel or Kathy or one of the moderators where it is. Joel has written quite an article about Mother/Son issues that can be found here on the forum... IT WILL OPEN YOUR EYES TO SOOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!! BUT MY GOODNESS, MY HUBBY IS NOW AT LEAST HEARING ME AND SAYING, " I AM SO SORRY I HAVE HURT YOU SO BADLY,.." WORDS I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD HEAR.......My heart is beginning to "heal".. and I am beginning to "believe" his words...... Joel and Kathy and all this whole ministry truly CARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY WALK THE TALK>>>>>>>>> I feel like I have known these people all my life,,,,,,,,,,,,, My husband and I are LAUGHING.. We hadn't laughed very much in the past 6 years.. I have watched the JOY come back in BOTH of our lives..... The JOY OF THE LORD IS OUR STRENGTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We are taking things ...one day at a time.............. Some days I still get overwhelmed. But now there are new friends in this ministry that I can call and talk to OR get on the forum and cry out.. I NEED HELP!!!!.... and HELP comes........ I can actually now share with my husband how I FEEL!!!!!!!!!!!! Since I found this ministry I have learned just how badly sooooooooooooooooo many couples are hurting in their marriage.. SO many women are being abused emotionally and verbally and even spriritually. So many children are hurting because their parents are being torn apart......... IT IS TIME WE STAND UP AND SAY ...NO MORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ........"NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST US SHALL PROSPER...." IT IS TIME TO KICK THE ENEMY OUT OF OUR MARRIAGES AND FIND HEALING........ You have not "just happened" to find this forum and Joel and Kathy.. IF you are like me..... you have been praying, "OH GOD PLEASE HELP ME"!!!!!!! and HE has brought you to this ministry.......I know what it feels like to think, " I cannot take the pain ... one more minute...one more day....... God always come through at the 11th hour it seems, just before it gets the darkest......... YOU have found HOPE..........YOUR HUSBAND CAN CHANGE............. you can find the love ....again..........It is a walk of FAITH... you must BELIEVE in yourself.. YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN... YOU ARE NOT WEAK........ Joel and Kathy will help you find your voice again......... We are planning to go to an "INTENSIVE" in a few short months.INTENSIVE= ( a weekend designed to bring healing to our marriages and where our clueless husbands will really find out just how clueless they really are...... LOL) We are believing God to provide the money to go... another walk of faith........... I actually "miss" my husband when he goes to his job now ( he travels to another city and can be gone 24 hours) I USE TO PRAY FOR HIM TO GO TO WORK,,,,, just for the "peace".... I am beginning to " believe" my husband when he says " I love you...." There are still times when my hubby is "CLUELESS", but he is starting to see he is clueless...He is actually beginning to "hear my heart and I am beginning to feel safe to share my feelings..... I don't have to stuff all my emotions down deep inside now...... So let this be the first day of the rest of your life.. a new life....... Reach out there are people here that will love you back to health ... they will help your clueless husband......... they will help teach your husband how to die to self and be YOUR HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so thankful to everyone in this ministry and I know this is just the beginnning... They give me the strength to "believe" in myself and "believe" I am so worth being LOVED.. My husband blamed me for everything wrong in our marriage... He isn't blaming me anymore ,,,,,, because of Joel and Kathy and the others in this ministry he is actually accepting the blame for all the pain he has caused not only me but both of us......... So thank you to all of you... that have been here for both my husband and I the past 8 weeks..... thank you for listening to all my pain and for telling me I wasn't crazy.. Thank you for making my husband see just how clueless he is......... Thank you for taking the time to listen to every feeling I have poured out... I thank GOD for leading me here............. I am sure our journey has just begun but WE are so grateful we have each of you to go through this journey with us!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, I am still dealing with insomnia and haven't slept since Weds night and it is 12:27am Saturday morning......So now that I have poured my heart out I am trusting God for some restful sleep..... Now, when I don't sleep, I pray for all of you here in this ministry.. FOR THOSE OF YOU HELPING AND THOSE OF YOU WHO ARE HURTING...... I just wanted to "encourage" YOU...... YOU, who have come here with your heart full of pain... Thinking .. " My husband will NEVER change".. "I can't take one more minute of this".......... This is a ministry of HOPE and MIRACLES!!!!!!!!!!!!!! GOD CAN SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!!! PEACE , LOVE AND JOY TO EACH OF YOU...................Goodnight!!! Joyce Of Joyce and Don 1 more marriage FULL OF HOPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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