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I really don't know what to say right now which is why I haven't been posting. I made a mistake and am paying the price for it which unfortunately involves my family being hurt. If I could go back and change it I would but I can't.

 

Yes I am TRULY sorry for the hurt that I caused Pink and my daughters. I love them more than anything else and it sucks that they are stuck with such a retard for a "leader"

 

Not sure how to react to her taking 500 out in cash and leaving roughly 40 bucks in the bank. If I am out of the house then I need access to money in order to get from A to B and to eat. Is there some way to work something out?

 

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$40 should get you through a few days.

 

You could ask Pink here to put $40 more in the account on Friday if you don't have any more money coming in to you from other sources. It is safe to assume that she will see this here.

 

No doubt she was concerned that you may take money out and leave her stranded.

 

Last time you were out of the house you downloaded porn. Only God knows what you will do this time. Well, God and you know. Your wife though has to protect herself against any other "oops.. I only did that because I am out of the house and thought the marriage was over" actions on your part... such as using money to try to make her need you.

 

It is your world that you are creating. Start creating a better world by sowing better seeds.

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I agree. 40 dollars should last you a while. The only reason you need any more is for gas because I think you have a commute. You don't need to be eating out every day. Pack a lunch. Bologna is cheap. I make Damon a bologna and cheese sandwich every day for work, and a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. He eats lunch for around 2.00 a day.

 

This is what real people do. Maybe if you started living like this, you could afford to do something other than nursing for a career.

 

Take Care,

Julie

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Using money to make her "need" me? Where do you get that from? I understand the reason she did it, I am not upset about that. The only problem is knowing that I will have enough money to make it until "payday".

 

I understand that it is my world that I am creating by the seeds that I have sewn.

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Hey real quick about her talking to her ex boyfriend on facebook. I didn't say anything at the time because I had a past of throwing her under the bus and I was trying to build some trust with her. I actually found it myself by looking on her facebook account. She didn't feel guilty and then tell me. I FOUND it.

 

When I brought this up it was because she was asking me what was going through my mind when I did it. What led up to me seeking out the porn? I just kept telling her that I believed a lie and that it WAS NOT HER FAULT AT ALL. That I MADE A VERY POOR DECISION TO BELIEVE LIES AND TO BE EXTREMELY SELFISH. That wasn't good enough and she kept wanting more information so I told her that I felt like she had lied to me about seeking out an ex boyfriend who she had been intimate with. So I believed the lie long enough to be unfaithful to both God and my wife. I felt like that she was having an affair so it was ok for me to do so.

 

None of this is her fault. She is amazing and beautiful and I really don't deserve her. I never tried to make this her fault and in the past when it sounded that way she gave me a chance to correct myself and apologize for hurting her. It was a choice that I made, it will have it's consequences and I wish that I could take all of the hurt onto myself and protect not only Pink but our daughters as well. I didn't think long term when I did it. I was hurting and I self medicated.

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Flyboy,

Are you a Christian believer?

 

Do you take the Lord's sacrifice for you lightly? Paying for your sin (and my sin - and others' sin) is a truly big deal.

 

YOU ARE THE PROBLEM in your marriage. Quit trying to blame Pink.

 

If you would ever get humble, you "could" be teachable.

 

My recommendation, watch the movie "The Passion of the Christ" -- this is a great depiction of the LOVE of CHRIST.

 

you wrote:

Well making lunches is a good idea and since I have only me to worry about I have the time as well.

While I realize this was written about the amount of $$ you presently have in your possession, this has also been your attitude. it's all about you -- I only watched porn because I thought it was over. I only cleaned her out of $$ so I could go be with my son because I was out of the house and she doesn't like my son blah blah blah blah blah

 

It's still all about you and of trying to get out of the responsibility of what you have done to hurt your bride. God put it inside your bride to know when something was "not right" -- and unfortunately, she did something (it was not even an emotional affair, so what is her sin exactly?) but PORN IS ADULTERY according to the Lord Jesus Christ.

http://joelandkathy.invisionzone.com/index.php?/topic/2493-porn-its-affect-on-marriage-and-why-a-wife-cant-compete/

 

Your bride canNOT compete with it. It's a marriage KILLER, Flyboy, and you are busy defending yourself with it. You say,

I made a mistake
It was a deliberate SIN.

 

You know what is required:

There is no talk of restoration until he:

1. Quits the job (nursing program).

2. Lie detector.

3. Gives up computer.

 

Matthew 5 27 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell." (5:27-30)

 

praying for you to become humbled -- pridefulness is a destroyer

 

 

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When you guys get something stuck in your head there is no correcting it. Which would be fine if you didn't use it to make other judgments about me.

 

I have not blamed Pink. Please please get over that and quit saying that I am blaming her. I can't say it any clearer than I AM THE ONE WHO MADE THE DECISION. I WAS WEAK AND BELIEVED A LIE AND USED THAT TO BE SELFISH. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH PINK.

 

Thank you.

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deflection -- you have that down-pat --

 

it is now time to get on with true repentance and full honesty as well as a humble spirit and loving actions that come from the Lord God. If you do not have a relationship with Jesus then the agape-loving of your bride is not possible. This is why I asked.

 

Full repentance will not happen until you understand the depth of your sin against God. This is why I strongly suggest that you watch the movie The Passion of the Christ. If that movie doesn't touch your heart, I don't know what can.

 

 

 

you are at a dangerous crossroads -- self vs Christ

 

King David sinned against God -- he repented, he became a man after God's own heart -- you can, too.

 

prayerfully,

June of

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Flyboy, when are you going to get this? Just STOP NOW. :blink: Once and for all, no more excuses. No more of I did this because SHE … Do not allow that thought to escape your mouth or your fingers. You need to take 100% full responsibility for your actions.

 

You are talking out of both sides of your mouth. What I hear you saying is, I don’t want to blame her but…. Don’t even go there, because obviously that’s not true. You do want to blame her or the next words that follow would not be blaming her.

 

Do you view porn and afterwards you don’t like yourself? :angry: You don’t like feeling guilty so then you rationalize it? What is it you’re going to tell yourself next time? Let me see, we were broke up and I was out of the house and so I thought it was OK ….here we go again flyboy. When are you going to break the cycle and man up? Pink predicted that was going to happen and you attempted to have everyone focus on her and what you perceive as her problems.

 

Guess what, she was right. Now listen to her and do what she asks. SHE HAS THE MARRIAGE MANUAL so STOP TRYING TO POINT OUT SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER. You, my friend, would drive a sane woman crazy.

 

Just stop doing it. Die to that part of you that wants to blame Pink. Even if you think she did something wrong just keep it to yourself and focus on her good points. Whatever her issues are will clear up on their own when you take care of you. So bite your tongue until it bleeds, NO MORE, Pink did blah blah blah. AT ALL! PERIOD!

 

You are not a man who is humble and remorseful and asking for help because if you were there is more help for you to lick this problem. There are plenty of men here, men with integrity and honor and self respect who have overcome that same issue but they had to die to their excuses FIRST.

 

Have you not read Proverbs? Try Proverbs 7:21-23. “So she seduced him with her pretty speech and enticed him with her flattery. He followed her at once, like an ox going to the slaughter. He was like a stag caught in a trap, awaiting the arrow that would pierce its heart. He was like a bird flying into a snare, little knowing it would cost him his life.”

 

You have got your friends and enemies confused. Who are your real friends flyboy? You treat Pink and you treat us like we are your enemies and then you run into the arms of the brash women of the night.

 

You say rude and sarcastic things. Your attitude has a putrid odor about it and we can sniff it out like bloodhounds. I feel like we are trying to lead you out of the woods but you are fighting us every step of the way. You seem to think we are blind and you should follow yourself but your vision is obscured with illusions. You see a mirage and run to it only to find out it was not real and you wasted everyone’s precious energy again. Soon you will be in the desert alone and you can have all of the mirages you want until you are all dried up and done.

 

You did not want my help when I had to ask you over and over again what antivirus you had etc. with your computer. You had excuses and promises. I have more help for you but I am not going to throw those pearls to the swine until I see a change in your attitude. Saying you are going to do something and then not following through is not going to buy you more time this time. You must take action first and then you will get praise and guidance. No more empty promises.

 

Please say out loud, I looked at Porn because I was like an ox going to slaughter. I gave into temptation. I lied to Pink and everyone here. It had nothing to do with Pink. It has everything to do with me and my character and I am going to make it up to Pink from this day forward, whatever she needs from me I will do. Trust Pink. She will lead you down the right path but it will have to be painful for you first. Push into the pain. Be a man. Trust Pink. And trust God.

 

You know what you need to do. It has been spelled for you. It’s your move flyboy.

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Can somebody please help clarify to me where I am saying that it was Pink's fault? I am really trying to understand where that is coming from. I obviously said something and would love to correct that.

 

The only thing I can think of is where I said that about her ex boyfriend so I would like to clarify.

 

When it all went down I told her that I had made a poor decision and believed lies from the great deceiver. That because she had done X then I could do Y.

 

I was not trying to blame her for it. I didn't come on here and try to defend my actions. I only told her what I was thinking after she voiced to me her hurt that she thought it was because I had lusted after somebody in my school and had become so overfull of lust that i had to go self gratify.

 

I told her that I was hurting and that I allowed myself to believe a lie. That I alone had made the decision to do what I did. She wanted more information.

 

I told her that I believed the lie that she was having an affair with her ex boyfriend and that it had started on facebook.

 

That is where the ex boyfriend thing came out in the conversation. I was trying to be completely honest with her and I understand that I have no credibility here at all which I deserve. I was NOT trying to blame shift. I knew then and I know now that it was all a lie and that it was an extremely stupid and selfish moment in my life. One that I am not proud of.

 

and unfortunately, she did something (it was not even an emotional affair, so what is her sin exactly?)

Is this just a passing question or one that you feel like I need to address?

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C2 the anti virus thing was answered when you asked it. I was not trying to evade. However there are at times things that are more important than a stupid anti virus question.

 

Next how's this?

I AM THE ONE WHO MADE THE DECISION. I WAS WEAK AND BELIEVED A LIE AND USED THAT TO BE SELFISH. IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH PINK.
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flyboy,

 

When a man is childish and immature he will filter everything his wife and others say through his own perceptions and self-protection. When the Lord corrects you through others it is in your best interest to go to God and humbly ask Him to help you see what He sees. To show you the way out of your wanderings.

 

We love you flyboy or we would not waste our time with you. Do you think we like pointing out to you where you have an attitude? DO we like to be the ones to deliver that which will hurt you and sting you? Of course we don't like it but we know for real change to happen that will redirect the whole course of your marriage and life.....it becomes necessary.

 

God will wound you and then bind up your wounds. He will tear you down to build you back up. He will mold you and make you through the trying of your faith. The pain of being naked before God has a purpose. The awful humiliation of being exposed leads to being clothed with righteousness.

 

God LOVES you too much to let you stay the same because He KNOWS even you do not like who you are apart from doing the right or making righteous decisions.

 

We have all sinned

We ALL need to change

We ALL need healing from our wounds

We ALL need to be renewed in our minds because our carnal mind is at enmity with God

We ALL are with you on this same path

 

God's heart is to make you into a Man of God. A man that YOU will be proud of too. It is just a fact that to get to that place of maturity and wholeness, the Lord has to show you what is blocking or hindering relationship with Him.

 

If God's love flowing through us to others is His ultimate goal, then HOW will God accomplish this? How would God help you to do this?

 

For some reason in the heart and mind of the Father, He has chosen that an earthly marriage IS the best atmosphere for that to happen within. Within the Covenant and confines of this unique relationship a man and woman would learn of love....what it is, what it looks like, how it is demonstrated. Not only this but when they practiced this love toward each other they would BECOME LOVE. Love is not just something we do but it is something we ARE. They would learn to carry out God's plans and purposes in a tangible way. They together would show forth God's picture of salvation and walk out that salvation with each other.

 

For you, as a husband God defined HOW you would learn NOT to only mentally ascend to love's reality but to become a lover of God by being a lover of a Bride. Just like Jesus did for you. He has only asked you to love a Bride by giving yourself away to meet her needs to be loved.

 

I know that at first glance this may not make sense but it is the truth because God has already proven to you that this is what He means when you gaze at the Cross of Christ. There is before you the greatest picture of LOVE.

 

All Jesus wants is that you go and DO likewise. NOT to be nailed to a tree but to live out love with your wife therefore proving that Christ's death was not in vain, that what Jesus did for you si alive and real because Christ is duplicated, His love on-going through the life of His children. That is picking up your Cross.

 

For a husband this means to lay down your life. Your life consists of your dreams, desires, needs and wants. It consists of your calling and gifts, your time and talents, your destiny and purpose.

 

For a season this is what God asks you to lay down. You lay it down so that your focus is not on yourself but on the heart of a wife to meet her life's deepest longings.

 

Why? Because when you lay down, God will raise you up again. When you love and give your life away you will find it. When a seed falls into the gorund and dies a harvest that is multiplied comes back to you. When you obey God in giving your very life for a Bride she will respond back to you. When you love you become a LOVER. When you love it takes great maturity and selflessness to do it. You find one day that you are perfect and mature because love taught you how to grow up.

 

When will she respond? When will love's cost have a pay off? When will you reap the harvest?

 

When you have selflessly loved her to the degree that she knows she is loved and cherished. WHen she knows that she is put first above all others and even the pkeasures of sin. WHen she can safely trust that who you say you want to be is the person you have become. When your words match your outward behavior because there is an inner transformation.

 

Yes, this takes time because YOU are NOT perfect and without sin like Jesus. Jesus already embodied love and He was Holy even as the Father is Holy.

 

A man whose gaze is fixed on Jesus BY fixing his eyes upon his wife only takes three years (just like the disciples were with Jesus). Jesus came to seek and save those who were lost, unloved. His goal and purpose was to die for a Bride. Everything He performed, acted upon and taught was ALL to that end.

 

Go and love pink like Jesus. Give your whole heart to it. Give everything you have for love. Give yourself away for her benefit and well-being. Give up whatever God asks you to give and whatever she asks of you.

 

I promise you, you will never be the same again.

 

Kimberly

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C2 the anti virus thing was answered when you asked it. I was not trying to evade. However there are at times things that are more important than a stupid anti virus question.

 

Next how's this?

 

hey Flyboy...

 

for a long time there was an internal struggle within me as

i sought to defend who i was, (ideal self), correct who i

had been, (sinful self), and maintain sight of the man has

called me to be (God's son). When i got derailed i would

look for the reasons that it happened...what triggered me,

what provoked me, what was the reason?

 

Someone came along and showed me that i had been operating

from an "external lotus of control" platform. those are not

the psychologically correct words, but in effect, i was

saying that my behavior was a response...a reaction, not

an action.

 

For instance, i used to allow myself to lust...not my fault,

i'm a man and "she" was wearing a low cut top or a short

cut skirt...get my drift?

 

What seems to frustrate the helpers here is when we, as men,

refuse to own our sin with no strings or reasons attached.

"i was having a pity party and felt entitled and i looked

at porn; it was wrong, i knew it was wrong,and in the end

it make me vomit...but in my frustration w/my life and

myself...i just imploded and got stupid". When we take-on

life from this posture, we have an "internal lotus of

control"; we are captaining our own ship, we are acting out

of the sovernign will that God gave us; granted, that is

an example of abusing the gift of "our will", but nonetheless,

we are acting, not reacting. So let go of, " i believed a lie",

and just realize you sinned.

 

Welcome back to the human race...you need Jesus everyday just

like i do; without Him we are separated from God.

 

anyhow, what i eventually had to come to grips with was this;

my detest for myself, my detest of the sin in my life, and the

fact that i was ensnared far beyond my ability to help myself

if all i focused on was preserving my opinion of me. So, who's

opinion did i choose? Choose God's...listen to His voice and

begin to act accordingly. Humble yourself before the mighty

hand of almight God, confess your stuff...repent...and start

again.

 

You are very loved here; don't get caught in minutia (sp?), but

rather find the meaning. Release Pink from any responsibility

for your actions...own your behavior-man up and own it all.

Then, release to God, make peace w/Pink, and cease the behavior.

 

Strength and Honor,

 

InHisImage

 

From: In the Eye of the Storm

 

"Self Worth"

 

"He has made perfect forever those who are being made holy..."

 

Underline the word perfect. Note that the word is not better. Not improving. Not, on the upswing. God doesn't improve, He perfects. He doesn't enhance, He completes....

 

Now i realize that there's a sense in which we're imperfect. We still err. We still stumble. We still do exactly what we don't want to do. And that part of us is, according to the verse, "being made holy."

 

But when it comes to our position before God, we're perfect. When he sees each of us, He sees one who has been made perfect throught the One who is perfect - Jesus Christ.

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Flyboy, I think I need to apologize to you for my last post. It was too harsh. I think my point was lost in the tone.

 

I would still like to make the point to resist the urge to point out what Pink did wrong. I think if you can die to that one it will open a lot of doors for you.

 

InHisImaage makes a good point about owning it with no strings attached. Any thoughts on that one?

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Yes the owning it w/o strings attached comes through clear and is what I was trying to do. In an attempt to answer every question she had I went in to detail what I was thinking when I did it. That is the ONLY reason that I mentioned to her about her reaching out to her ex. Thanks again.

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It would have been better if you did not take that opportunity to mention the ex.

 

As InHisImage said:

So let go of, " i believed a lie", and just realize you sinned.
anyhow, what i eventually had to come to grips with was this;

my detest for myself, my detest of the sin in my life, and the

fact that i was ensnared far beyond my ability to help myself

if all i focused on was preserving my opinion of me. So, who's

opinion did i choose? Choose God's...listen to His voice and

begin to act accordingly. Humble yourself before the mighty

hand of almight God, confess your stuff...repent...and startagain.

It is good that you tell us what you were thinking, what you told yourself at the time to make it OK. But now we are trying to help you see where what you told yourself is a form of rationalizing the behavior.

 

We are not getting the sense that there is true remorse but more of , “I got caught, I’m sorry I got caught. How can I sublety get the focus off of me and my sin. Let’s move on.”

 

I think this is the tip of the iceberg. At this point you have two choices, Pink is onto what is going on so you can come completely clean and confess all the secrets. If you have already confessed everything, take the lie detector test and vindicate yourself. Or just blow the whole marriage up.

 

If you are sincere in your apology you may have to apologize to Pink again and again and again until she gets the sense it is sincere and change is happening on the inside. And then the apology needs to be followed with action. Sacrificial remorseful action. Will you be her hero?

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So when she was asking and putting in her own ideas of what I had been thinking when I did "it" how should I have responded to her? you guys say to answer ALL questions NO MATTER WHAT so how should I have answered that part of the question?

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Your response:

 

Honey, I'm so sorry I did this to you. I understand that you are having so many feelings right now. I want to be here with you and listen to you as you share each and every one of them with me. If I don't seem to understand what you are feeling, please tell me so that I can better understand. Honey, I really am sorry I put you in this position and I will NEVER do it again. You can put your faith and trust in that.

 

You don't have to tell her she's wrong about the why's and whats. The truth of the matter is, she may be wrong, but she may NOT be. You are in such an immature and arrested place right now, you can't see your true motivations behind things, either. If she says, "you did x because of a, b and c" then realize that she's saying, "I feel like you did x because of a b and c." Then you can deal with her feelings by applying the LOVER acronym.

 

Remember with that acronym to really STRESS the V. most guys skip over the V.

 

If she'll even talk to you without a lie detector test.

 

Take Care,

Julie

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So when she was asking and putting in her own ideas of what I had been thinking when I did "it" how should I have responded to her? you guys say to answer ALL questions NO MATTER WHAT so how should I have answered that part of the question?

 

 

 

Answers with sarcasm or a flippant tone certainly won't help, but as Julie said to answer by VALIDATING the FACTs that she is hurting and that she feels a certain way is what you need to be focused on.

 

Did you ever do your full list of hurts, the full list of validating her feelings of the pain she felt when you did the many hurts against her? This was to be done months ago.

Please focus on that for now, as well as sending her texts to let her know that you are NOT going to check out of this marriage, that you want to be honest with her, that she is awesome, that she is worthy of a husband who is Christlike in all he does. that you want to be that kind of husband because she is the daughter of the King of Kings and deserves royal treatment

 

This apology list is/has been very important to Pink, to J&K and has somehow escaped your priority - even though she asked you for it several times as have we. I believe that if you would honestly do this and consider her feelings for each and every one ... as well as watch the movie The Passion of the Christ... that your spin on how she reacts/responds will be vastly different than your attitude right now.

 

my .02

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Not sure if you were saying that I addressed Pink's questions with sarcasm or if you were addressing something else.

 

I have done some looking for a polygraph administrator but haven't been very successful. Pink mentioned she had some info but she won't forward that to me. Not sure if it is somebody close or not.

 

So as it stands now she hasn't deposited any money into the account like she agreed to do.

 

I have gotten about 2 minutes with my daughters and any questions of when can I see them are directed to my brother in law (631 on here)

When I try to get a hold of him he is to busy to know when a good time is. I understand he is a busy guy so why is he in the middle of this?

 

Joel had specifically said that hope and 631 shouldn't be involved with Pink and I's recovery.

 

Oh the two minutes I got with the girls was because I got there a little bit early the day she asked me to come fix the washing machine. I had offered a few other times but this time she asked me. She got upset and kicked me out of the house, and I grabbed some of my things on the way out the door. I also loaded my bikes and guns. She looked at me loading my things as if I was loading to go play and have fun which wasn't the case. Just thought I would address that so nobody thinks I'm trying to hide something.

 

So my main concern right now is getting to see my daughters. Can anyone please explain why I am being kept from seeing them? Thanks!

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I have done some looking for a polygraph administrator but haven't been very successful. Pink mentioned she had some info but she won't forward that to me. Not sure if it is somebody close or not.

Flyboy, I am starting to see a pattern here. You say you have looked for a lie detector administrator but with no luck. Is that kind of like trying to solve the Covenant Eyes problem with no luck? I will believe you are pursuing this after I see action.

 

Oh the two minutes I got with the girls was because I got there a little bit early the day she asked me to come fix the washing machine. I had offered a few other times but this time she asked me. She got upset and kicked me out of the house, and I grabbed some of my things on the way out the door. I also loaded my bikes and guns. She looked at me loading my things as if I was loading to go play and have fun which wasn't the case. Just thought I would address that so nobody thinks I'm trying to hide something.

 

Not sure what’s going on here but you say, “She got upset and kicked me out of the house, …” as if something is wrong with her for getting upset. If she invited you there and then she got upset, you must have done something to upset her. Did you find out what you did to upset her, validate that, and then make sure it doesn’t happen again? Or did you use the opportunity to grab your stuff and run?

 

I also loaded my bikes and guns. She looked at me loading my things as if I was loading to go play and have fun which wasn't the case.

Really? What else do you do with guns and a bike?

 

Your action does not come across as a guy trying to win his wife’s heart back. If my husband came in and starting upsetting me and grabbing his stuff, I would not be a happy camper either. In fact, I don’t think I’d ever invite you back if that’s how it went down. Otherwise I might turn into a Jerry Springer girl and that’s not very southern or pretty.

 

You say you got there a little bit early. Getting there at the time you agreed to would be good. Getting there early could cause as many problems as coming late. Do you seriously not see the problem with this?

 

I’m glad you’re posting on the forum flyboy. The best way to spend more time with your daughters will be to love their mother. That’s what a good dad does.

 

Wishing the best for you,

C2

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the principle of reaping and sowing -- that is what this is about, FB

 

 

Are you aware that because you caused a stink the last time you were at the house, Pink had to spend $$ for an electrician? That you put a holey tarp over the wood that she purchased and now she is having to buy more so that your family doesn't freeze? There are other bills that she must protect, too, because they go unpaid when you are handling it, so she is actually doing the best she can, but has no extra $$.

 

This is what happens when you are not attentive to the NEEDS of your wife. This is not her fault.

 

You took your GUNS? That was your priority when you went to the house? It certainly appears that way. pick a fight, then take what you want. How about selling them? and putting the $$ into the family's needs and also to pay for a lie detector test. They are not hard to find -- just google it or call the police for a referral.

 

This is still about reaping and sowing.

and, unfortunately you reap a whole lot more than you sow!

 

Hopefully, once you start sowing the Fruit of the Spirit into your bride (which you CAN DO if you are a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ): love, joy, peace, patience, genteleness, goodness, faith, meekness (humility), self-control..... then you WILL be reaping the rewards of that, too, abundantly beyond what you can think or imagine.

 

Agape-loving: find out all about it, FB, for this is what you are to do UNCONDITIONALLY for Pink.

 

Trouble is: you are still not at the end of yourSELF. We sure hope you do soon.

 

Blessings and prayers for you to get a humble spirit.

June of

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She has you COMPLETELY snowed. Her nephew was supposed to be doing it and she asked me to come over and help him. I spent the very last of my money to buy gas to get over there and help. When I showed up at her brothers house the nephew handed me the tools and said good luck. I showed up at her house with the tools and since the nephew wasn't there she told me she wanted me out. I was there literally two minutes and hadn't said a word to her because her dad and I got there at the same time. As soon as her dad left she asked where her nephew was, then when she knew he wasn't going to be there she told me she didn't want me there because she was leaving to take our daughter to ballet.

 

*when I say early I mean about 2 minutes early. I got there 2 minutes before I said I would.

 

When she asked me to come work on the house for her, I asked her if it would be ok for me to grab some things while i was there. She said no problem.

 

When she found out that he wasn't going to help and that I was pretty much was going to do it myself she got really upset. The nephew was supposed to have done it last week but he wasn't able to get it done I guess for what ever reason. She told me that she was going to go get an electrician to do it since her brother (who is an electrician) and nephew hadn't done it. I offered to do it.

 

So after she had kicked me out again I asked her about if she was going to be able to put money in the account and when I could see the kids. That was when things got ugly.

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