MaryJane Posted September 26, 2012 Report Share Posted September 26, 2012 Welcome, Charles. --- It sounds to me like you are being a loving, caring, understanding listener for your wife. I think your wife is really beginning to "see" the difference between you and any other man on the planet who would remotely be of interest to her -- and realizes there IS no comparison. I think she feels confused because her emotions toward the men in her life are changing -- and the slant is toward you, the husband who hurt her so in the past. Keep up the good work. Loving one's wife like Christ, and being with her in an understanding way -- wins! Patience. Hold steady. God bless you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimothyPaul Posted September 26, 2012 Report Share Posted September 26, 2012 Ugh - this stinks. But, remember how you said you lost your best friend? Well, sounds like you getting your best friend back. She really must be having moments of safety with you to talk through this with you. And thats big Charles. I know my wife shares with me things she could not share with anyone else, including similar conversations. She has a code word, "her friend". When "her friend" is having boyfriend trouble, we are talking about her. We both know it, but I guess she feels more comfortable that way. I just stay within the Word of God and speak from my heart what God has taught me. It's all about the Love. As hard as this is, you are bring her healing. And because you love her - that is the most important thing. TP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Rebuilding Trust Posted September 28, 2012 Report Share Posted September 28, 2012 I'm glad you just tired from lack of sleep and not from the fight Charles, keep up the good fight! I got woke up at 2am last night from S and we talked and I didn't get back to sleep until almost 4am and then up at 5:30am so I also am tired from lack of sleep but I would do it again and again to be able to bless my wife.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MaryJane Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Well, you're supposed to stay out of her head, but there's no law saying I have to! I think she can't help but fall in love with you. Maybe she's already in love with YOU and is trying not to be. Anyway, go back to pushing through, OK? GOD, the Creator of the whole earth, the All-powerful One, is your Help. Be blessed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MaryJane Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 Take it as a big compliment! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Looney_Tunes Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 LOL boring is not a word I'd ever use to describe you, Charles, so I agree that it's a pretty major compliment. You're safe. And yeah, I get that safe sounds kinda boring, but you have to be safe before you can be anything else to her, so it's much more exciting than it sounds. Maybe we need to invent another word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KLENTZ Posted October 2, 2012 Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 How about Christ-like Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles from Cali Posted October 2, 2012 Author Report Share Posted October 2, 2012 (edited) Appreciated Looney..... And Klentz.....Good one Edited October 2, 2012 by Charles from Cali Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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KLENTZ Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 Charles ,I had a rough day also I am days away from our divorce being final.I have learned a lot from you and want to encourage you to stay in the fight. I will be praying for you and your wife along with the other guys. Keep up the good workGod bless Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimothyPaul Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 omg - Charles - I can so relate to this. The "true colors" line is the classic. Heard that about 3 weeks ago. Also "why are you guys such jerks. Why can't you just "get it". Also, I guess my wife's "friend's boyfriend" (chuckle chuckle) has a porn issue. Actually - this week we dropped the "friend" ruse. Which was okay. I just wish I wasSmart enough before it happened..... most likely you were smart enough, but didn't have the wisdom. You needed the experience to harness the smarts to be where you are now. I realize that is not very encouraging, but it is the truth. And God knows this. You did not have the teachings you needed to be at this level. If someone hands us a Bible with out the salvation and relationship with Christ, the words mean nothing. They are pigments of oil and water on cellulose, they will never speak to us they way they are meant to through His blood. Interesting choice of words - passion? Passion comes from the Latin word passiō, which is representative of Christ dying on the Cross... suffering, submission, derivative of Latin passus, past participle of patī to suffer, submit; Without her realizing it, she is referencing the very internal heart desire of a woman. So in essence, she realizes she needs a Christlike man. I know someone who can handle the job... Peace of our Lord and Savior be with you.... TP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Charles from Cali Posted October 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 Thank you TP!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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TimothyPaul Posted October 4, 2012 Report Share Posted October 4, 2012 .. I was with the phone calls a lot longer... My change began in October of 2009.... I can rejoice that now... She at least believes me ... what a long strange trip it's been... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Looney_Tunes Posted October 5, 2012 Report Share Posted October 5, 2012 Charles, did I hear you say you're in Ohio right now? Where? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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