JoelandKathy Posted August 10, 2011 Report Share Posted August 10, 2011 Topic: last chance (Forum: Ministry to men who are working to win their wife's heart back.)http://joelandkathy.invisionzone.com/index.php?/topic/4693-last-chance/===================================== -------------------------------------------just.reid -- Yesterday, 03:59 AM20/20/20/20 that is so much fun! Tea, thank-you for being so amazing! I am such a blessed man. Thank-you for hanging on. -------------------------------------------tea123 -- Yesterday, 01:00 PMHon, you are doing too many things right for me to list. I am dumbfounded at the change in you. Thank You, Lord! It amazes me how you are the one providing the energy for this...every other time, I was the one pushing the train. Thank you, J.R for working so hard. -------------------------------------------just.reid -- Yesterday, 03:57 PMNot long to post today. Tea, you bring me to tears. I'm not supposed to do that at work. We serve a God of Unconditional Love. I have acted so much like I somehow deserve your affection and care. The truth is that I do not. I will only ever be what Christ's atoning blood and grace makes me. You've put up with so much. Carrying the weight of each pregnancy-- and I let you do that. I made you do that. I can't believe I put you in the position to move our household while you were pregnant. Tea, I know that must have made you feel like some kind of unappreciated brood mare. I'm so so sorry. I will not let you feel that way again. By the Grace of this great God who is yielding such a change of mind and heart in me- that is crucified. You will not be disappointed. You've had more than enough of that. I love you SweetTea. -------------------------------------------tea123 -- Yesterday, 04:41 PMDarling, I moved us, pregnant, twice by myself--one of those times with twins. BUT, that marriage is GONE. That abuser is GONE, by God's grace. On the women's call this morning, a lady was advised to remember her vision for her marriage. I realized I lost that nearly 20 years ago, but I'm beginning to remember it again. Don't quit. It's gonna be great. -------------------------------------------C2 -- Yesterday, 05:18 PMYou two are an inspiration. When a man makes up his mind and does this consistently, allows his wife to point out what he needs to work on, and then the wife encourages the right things he is doing, great things can happen for the kingdom of God. I feel sure angels are recording your progress in your book of life. God bless you both,C2 -------------------------------------------tea123 -- Yesterday, 08:45 PMThank you, C2. I am so humbled by what the Lord is doing ...and so thankful. Reid is just blessing my socks off. Not perfect, but oh so much better. -------------------------------------------just.reid -- Yesterday, 09:03 PMMy SweetTea has the cutest little feet too!WooHoo! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoelandKathy Posted August 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2011 tea123 -- Yesterday, 02:18 PMWow. Best night's sleep in a long time. Reid says this morning I have years of lost sleep to catch up on. He's been so sweet...not perfect, but waaaaaaay better than *ever*. I'm feeling married. Like I count....part of a team....not a soldier or employee. Lil Peanut looks good--had a sonogram last week. I thought it looked like a girl; Doc says it's too early to tell. After doing some research, I learned they *all* look like girls at this point, LOL. There is a part of me coming to the surface I didn't really remember was there. I *do* like being touched, being romanced. I'm not "frigid"....I really enjoy intimacy. I'm beginning to remember what I was like at the very beginning of marriage. J.r, I don't know where the old hubby went, but he isn't welcome to come back. I'll keep the new one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoelandKathy Posted August 10, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2011 Topic: last chance (Forum: Ministry to men who are working to win their wife's heart back.)http://joelandkathy.invisionzone.com/index.php?/topic/4693-last-chance/===================================== -------------------------------------------tea123 -- Yesterday, 03:54 AMI am SO glad the oxytocin info has opened your eyes. I can really see a difference since you listened to it. I am sensing that you are finally understanding why and how your flirting with other women simply crushed me. I am really feeling like this might be "It." My miracle. That does scare me a bit...so many times things would improve for a short time, then back to your antics...but things just really feel different this time. This is definitely the longest stretch you've put forth effort for the marriage. BTW, loving your lil hot pink notes everywhere. -------------------------------------------tea123 -- Yesterday, 03:56 AMMy wink disappeared. I winked at you after the comment about the notes. hahahaha -------------------------------------------just.reid -- Yesterday, 10:36 PMJust got done with a "Do Hard Things" conference. Our eldest is getting a copy of Start Here autographed by the Harris twins A dad was telling me how he planned to take this to his wife to encourage his daughter to apply herself. I saw myself in that man. SweetTea, you are not my subordinate. If I will press into Christ, He will fix me. He will make me more like Him. I work that out by serving Tea. I love you. I must go first and initiate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoelandKathy Posted August 15, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 15, 2011 tea123 -- Yesterday, 03:42 AMWow. Been a while since I posted on my thread. This morning I was talking to the young moms whom I'm training to lead breastfeeding groups. They were all astounded when I told them I would now be available one night a month to attend a meeting. I told them a year ago that evening meetings were never going to be an option for me. Reid used to make me feel sooo bad if I left the kids with him at night. Frequent texts, "Are you almost home?" etc. I really began to resent that he wouldn't watch the kids for me to go to a meeting from time to time. Anyway, I told the gals today that family dynamics had changed, and I could now attend the evening mtgs. Their eyes got big and they praised the Lord. Now, I had *never* "dissed" my husband to these ladies. I wouldn't have dared! Today, I told them I have a new hubby, and I kicked the bad one out! It was as if they had picked up on the dysfunction, even though I'd never talked about my marriage with them. I am amazed at what it's like to actually have a partner in parenting. All through our marriage, Reid would be gone a lot with soldier stuff--3 to 4 month schools/training...etc...then a yearlong deployment from 2004-20005. I was a "military wife" who just got'er done. No whining allowed. But after he got back from his yearlong, he was different. Very angry and disconnected. I had read a book that detailed being a submissive wife that year, and when he got home, I implemented it. What a disaster. I wanted to die. He became worse and worse until this May when I got the courage to lay out an ultimatum. I am so thankful for the way the Lord has worked since then. I know we haven't "arrived," but I am amazed at the progress. I knew J&K would work. I just never dreamed Reid would do it. So thankful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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