Intensive Testimonies! November 2011

[JoelandKathy]

Although I knew the marriage intensive would have been helpful for my marriage, I still had my doubts that my husband would “get it” - however, it has been 5 days of an eye-opener for my husband and he has expressed that he understands himself more. He also exclaimed that he wants to be a better man and for us to have a fresh start.

We will be renewing our vows and I am more hopeful now than I have ever been that we are going to make it. This ministry has begun to open the door for many miracles in our marriage and I look forward to sharing and recommending this intensive to every married couple I know.

Thank you Joel and Kathy, Kathy’s Mother-In-Law, and each couple we met for your support and may each of you be blessed.

Lydia (of Lydia and David - Georgia)

 

I was resistant to coming this weekend. I saw it as being more people telling me how to live my life and to change over night. Joel and Kathy have shown me I am the person who sets the tone in the home. I always thought Lydia’s mood controlled the mood of the home; when she was happy, it made me happy and visa versa. I’ve now learned that the better I treat her, the better she’ll treat me and the happier we will be as a team. This intensive was a lot of information that came together and left a clear message. I got married to love and support Lydia and this weekend was a healthy reminder.

Dave (of Dave and Lydia - Georgia)

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Kathy and Joel are the real deal. Warm, friendly, genuine. They also really do know their stuff. Their perception and insight into our marriage, even in two short days was astounding. They were spot-on in the advice that they gave us. I can finally see a light at the end of the tunnel. Praise God.

Thank You so much!

Fiona (of Fiona and Shawn – from England)

 

The Marriage intensive was the last stop at the end of the road for me and our marriage. Intensive or bust! Joel and Kathy are real; they speak from real life experiences and struggles. The whole weekend is informative, scriptural, and in depth with reality.

Joel and Kathy deliver the weekend with humor and love, genuinely helping the couples get to the place where they are “in” with their marriage. I have been in counseling for a lot of years and I know now that is the wrong teaching and it’s not worked. Joel and Kathy’s teaching is the real deal.

Thank You So Much for everything,

Shawn (of Shawn and Fiona – from England)

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“You will know the truth and the truth shall set you free”

The simple truth is that “Husbands are the Men.” Men are the initiators, the emotional strength, not woman. Women are the Responders. Men are to set the climate; they are the foundation stones of the house. My actions toward my wife determine how our house looks. Abusive behavior melts away when you understand that the power and strength God has given men is for the purpose to cherish their wives, not control them.

I love and need Rebecca!!

WE’RE HAVING NUMBER 7!

JOY IS OURS!

Pat (of Pat and Rebacca – Pennslylvania)

 

A couple of years ago, a counselor asked me what I wanted. I replied “I want my husband to understand how he is hurting me and destroying our dreams. Then I want him to come to me in tears, apologize, and change.” She told me to give up this fantasy because it would never happen. It happened this weekend. We are now walking toward God and a happy marriage. I pray we never look back.

Rebecca (of Rebecca and Pat – Pennsylvania)

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This intensive has been extremely eye-opening. It has answered so many of our marriage issues. I am hopeful for the chance of our marriage getting restored upon returning home. I would absolutely recommend this intensive to anyone who is considering or should be considering going. I plan to go home and share this with our friends. Thank you Joel and Kathy for spending the time with us to teach us how to have a great marriage!

Daisy (of Daisy and Ryan – New Jersey)

 

What the weekend has meant to me

When my wife found Joel and Kathy’s website online and showed it to me, I was skeptical. I finally agreed to come to the intensive and am glad I did. It really opened my eyes to the hurt and pain I’ve caused my wife. Although I am not a changed man yet, the intensive convinced me that I have to change or I am going to lose the most precious thing in the world to me: My Wife. I think every couple (either before or after marriage) should attend Joel and Kathy’s intensive.

Ryan (of Ryan and Daisy – New Jersey)

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After 2 years of hearing about your teaching, we finally made it to an intensive. It was better for me to hear the teaching then just reading it. We walked out of this with a better understanding.

Jerry (Of Jerry and Maria - South Carolina)

 

After 2 years since being introduced to the ministry, we finally made it to an intensive! We had a great time hearing the “words” of Joel and Kathy’s books come to life. Looking forward to an OHM…hoping it comes quicker than 3 years! (LOL)

Maria (of Maria and Jerry –South Carolina)

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We have read the books twice, but being in the intensive has really opened my heart and mind to much more understanding of how important it is to have an outrageously happy marriage. Going through the intensive with other couples going through the same challenges, motivates me to pursue my wife even more.

I thank Joel and Kathy for their dedication and love to make all this happen. We are receiving our miracle even now and will continue to do so.

Robert (of Robert and Maria – Florida)

 

Thank God for this weekend intensive! After 31 years of praying for a breakthrough, God brought me to Joel and Kathy. I’m so grateful to the Lord for them! We are on the right track now and waiting for a miracle. My husband is now getting it so we’re on our way to a great marriage.

Thank You Lord!

Maria (of Maria and Robert – Florida)

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Joel and Kathy,

This weekend has opened my eyes to a number of things that I was totally unaware of. Things that I have never heard of; Things that I, as a husband have been doing completely wrong. The information, knowledge, testimonies, and experience you provided will help me become the husband my wife deserves and also become the man that God has called me to be. I can’t wait to implement this into my life and explain it to my friends, so they will understand and never have to go through the things that I have. I would like to thank you Joel and Kathy and also would like to thank your team. You have saved my marriage and blessed us.

Thank You,

Jake (of Jake and Brook – Florida)

 

Dear Joel and Kathy,

I have thoroughly enjoyed this weekend intensive! I have been desperate for a break through for years. Your teaching has finally given me and Jake our miracle break through. Thank you both so much. I look forward to the rest of my life with my new and improved prince. I can now live my FAIRYTALE!

We will start new and fresh from here. I look forward to getting on the forum. I wish continued blessings to your ministry.

Brook (of Brook and Jake – Florida)

 

 

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Fiona and Shrek came from England to Palm Coast, Florida for their Five Day Marriage Intensive with Joel and Kathy. Here is part of her report that was posted on our forum after they returned to England. www.JoelandKathy.invisionzone.com

Fiona speaking: On Monday, we stopped at Joel and Kathy's, just to pick up a book I had ordered and had sent to them. They are more lovely, friendly, warm, and genuine in real life, even than what you might expect. Jen (21 year old daughter) is amazingly spunky, chatty and just a real great girl. Josiah (18 year old son) is a dreamboat. Chris, (23 year old son) - well, Shrek thinks I have a crush on him, (all in the best of taste - I am old enough to be his mother!) He has the gentlest spirit about him, he's just lovely.

Kathy also invited us to hang out at their house, use the pool, the hot tub, etc. whenever we liked during the week, and gave Felicia (our daughter) her cell number, to use at any time she liked. We went on to have a great mother daughter week together, shopping, going into Orlando, eating out, going on the beach. (up until now, Fiona and her daughter, Lauren, were here by themselves. Shrek was arriving a few days later, in time for the Intensive.)

 

On Sunday night, the three of us went to Kathy and Joel's for church, but I had got the time wrong, showing up at 7:30 instead of 5:30. So everybody was going home.

 

Even though everyone was going home Joel and Kathy made us feel welcome, and made us stay to visit. They offered to have a family meeting with us, before Felicia went home, at our hotel. They really go above and beyond.

 

Now.. on to the intensive:

The teaching is amazing. Hearing it in person adds a totally new dimension. Joe and Kathy are very funny and entertaining. They make a brilliant team. All the other couples were lovely too.

On Thursday, the group all went out for dinner at a restaurant. As we were walking out, Joel clocked Shrek straight away as he did his normal zoning out and disconnecting, walking about 20 yards ahead of me, and told him to walk with his wife, in a nice way of course.

 

To cut the story short about an argument that we had that night, on the next morning I didn't want to go for breakfast. Shrek hadn't apologised. He said he wasn't going to either. I totally put my foot down, and ordered him to go for his breakfast and face the music! Sure enough, when he went for breakfast, Joel asked him straight away where I was, what had he done to upset me, and had he apologized! Shrek came back and did apologize!

 

We had our private session on the Saturday. I was amazed by Joel and Kathy's insight into the dynamics of our relationship. It was uncanny. They just got straight to the heart of things, and gave us a perspective that we had never seen before. Joel said that because Shrek didn't really like to be responsible for making decisions, that there was a danger of him sabotaging, by pushing my buttons, till I make the decision to end things. Shrek would have forced me into making that decision, and he gets to look like the victim. I would have never thought of that. But it's so true!

 

Had another blip on the Sunday during the teaching with Shrek ignoring me, when I wanted his attention. I got upset and it showed at church that night at Joel and Kathy’s home. But everyone was so nice. It was amazing. At 7.30, church was over and everybody started going home. Joel and Kathy still made time for us, and tried to talk me through it.

 

Here's the thing: within 10 minutes of chatting to Kathy, I was fine. That woman has a gift, honestly. About 9 pm Joel headed off to the cinema with the boys, but Kathy told us to stay and talk. She made us feel like we were the most important people in the world to her at that time. About 10 pm I really made a move for the door because I could see her eyes going, but I honestly know she would have gone with us until the early morning if we'd needed it.

 

The 2 biggest things I took away with me about this ministry, and about Joel and Kathy, are their uncanny insight into things, and the fact that they are for real. This is their life, and their calling, and they live it, breathe it and they love it. They are totally invested in all their couples, and the passion they have for people and marriages is mind-blowing.

 

Next day, Shrek carried mine and his hand luggage all the way home. I can't tell you what this did for me. I felt like I wanted to crawl inside him, because of this one small thing. I just loved it.

When we got home I was exhausted, but he initiated some unpacking, and getting a wash in, before we went to bed for a couple of hours. Then when we got up he made dinner, and helped me tidy up a bit more.

 

He seems to really want to run with this thing and I am determined to help him be successful! As Kathy says, “It's all good!”