This Works!

[Looney_Tunes]

A recent post from a guy who stuck with it and didn't give up:

 

Haven't posted anything for quite a while. I think you guys should know what is going on. This roller coaster ride has been going on for three long years now. August of 2009 was when I found out she was done with me. August of 2011 we made it to the intensive. As of this month, something new has happened. My wife has crossed a line. She is officially affectionate and seems truly happy again. I still feel like I have a long way left to go, but she is finally willing to trust me with her heart again. It almost seems surreal. She has still not read any of the books, never sat through a full video and ended up in a fight the one time I read a chapter to her out loud. But, we are close enough to Joel and Kathy to see them almost every week. They are not cutting me any slack. Kathy checks on both of us almost every day. Joel is still willing to get in my face when something doesn't seem right. I am still killing off stuff in me... And I keep finding more.

Just to encourage you guys who are wondering, this is the real deal. Not quick or easy, but it works. I spent two years searching for some counselor who could fix us. I frustrated some of them pretty badly. Most of my family still thinks I am crazy for this "extreme" theology and taking all the blame for where we ended up. But I really understand the parallel between marriage and salvation. It is not 50/50. Christ paid it all. He took responsibility for everything, paid the whole bill, loved us even when we were idiots who despised him, gave up his life and even his potential to do what was best for us. It's the only way. Just do it guys. Don't hold anything back. Give up your pride, selfish and egotistical ambitions and just love her. Love her without any expectations. Love her even when she hates you.

[Charles from Cali]

Sounds like marching orders to me

[Rebuilding Trust]

I'm in

[William R]

Hi, and so glad to see this kind of attitude. My wife just left me for a man at a wedding she went to. I screamed for 3 Weeks why me and then God caught me. He said die to yourelf, love her no matter what. She is still in my home but she told me she has nothing for me, marriage was a mistake, and this new guy completes her. I told her even if you run to him you still have a home here. Everybody I know is against my attitude, they tell me to kick her out. But I cannot, God gave me a heart for her! Her plans, divorce me and marry him ASAP. Gods plans, says He honors marriage, and gives us the desires of our hearts and directs our foot steps. I am praying God moves in her a repentant heart. Pray for me please.

[ChooseLove]

I am in too!  This sounds like Erik Matlock who posts as Forrest Gump.  You can check out his great blog at http://erikmatlock.com/.

 

William R - any further updates?  Do you have a thread going on the forum.  Mine is http://forums.godsavemymarriage.com/index.php?/topic/7598-new-here-my-story-of-a-broken-marriage/.  I am thankful that my wife is responding to my pursuit as I change as a man.  I have been passive, abusive, neglectful for too long! That guy is being tossed to the curb so I can be a new creation in Christ - thanks to my wife's input.  I treasure what she shares with me now like it is gold.  My old self would have been put-off as seeing her as manipulative and controlling when in fact I was the one being that way.  Boy have my eyes been opened.  Thanks be to God!

Edited January 23, 2014 by ChooseLove

[isthatblazerock]

im in. my spirit is buzzing from the revelation.

[Forrest Gump]

Yeah guys. That was me. Hang in there. The miracle I got is good for you, too. Don't run from this, run towards it. Listen to Looney and take it like a man.