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Well the last time I posted anything in here was approximately 4 months ago. August 3rd I finally left wolf because I was in fear of my life. October 5th wolf requested divorce and I picked up the papers from his attorneys office. That same week I also obtained my apartment as I was living in a domestic violence shelter prior to. October 22 I gathered up the last bit of my belongings from the house. Wolf again had to show everyone what a big bad wolf he is by huffing and puffing. Again his perception he’s a big bad wolf. October 24 I obtained my attorney (thankfully my brother could help me out financially with this). From that point till now wolf tried to bully his way and push people by trying to get 1 year to refi the house in his name. I did not want the house, I did not want anything from him, I did not ask for money (out of fear of what wolf may do and make it more difficult and also because I did not want to be attached to anything g with him anymore). Wolf tried to play on the sympathies of his attorney as well as mine regarding his health problems (conjured up to gain sympathy of the community). Back in December. Wolfs attorney responded that either we give wolf 1 year & hopefully he can redo the house in his name, or he will file an RJI (request for judicial intervention). I immediately was terrified! This could lead to a trial which could cost both of us $5k-$10k!! Never mind that wolf may not have had that money, I just know I didn’t. Well my attorney responded back, we are in agreement with everything except for the time frame, so if your client won’t agree to 3mo this then go ahead and file the RJI. About 6 weeks later my attorney received a letter from wolfs attorney they backed down from the RJI and agree to a refi within 3 months. 
Although I did not get the 3 months from 10/22 I can get the 3 months starting from 2/23. 
Where I am at now: I am focusing on the best me I can be, and understanding my identity in Christ. God orchestrated my safety into my very own apartment, a beautiful and peaceful apartment. It is less 3 miles from my place of employment, within 2-3 miles of major shopping. My apartment is peaceful, the whole area I am at is quiet, but I say peaceful because I know the environment I am walking into. No more sitting on the side of the road after work fretting over what kind of mood wolf would be in, gearing myself up to more berating from wolf, hearing go on and on about how the world is wrong but he’s right, how this person or that person is against him and out to get him, how he is “the big dog” & no one messes with this “man of God”! Etc…. Now I come home and it’s quiet. I turn in my worship music, I stay in the word, have a few friends I can totally trust. But most of all I am so grateful for God giving me the umph to trusting Him, and bringing Joel & Kathy into my life. I may never have seen the horrible situation I was in. In divorce there aren’t any winners, regardless of who files first. There’s a whole lot of hurt and pain. But God brings beauty from the ashes. 
I have not had any communication with wolf since 10/22/22 and from august till October it was very limited. I know a day will come where we will bump into each other. Kind of hard not to when you shop in the same places and life only 15 miles from each, and have a lot of mutual acquaintances. God will prepare my heart and my mind when that day comes, to just love him the way God loves him but understand we do not have anything in common. Honestly my main goal is see him and not get butterflies of anxiety in my stomach, that nervousness that I was accustomed to when we were together.   People are starting to see me not as Mrs wolf, or former Mrs wolf, rather they know my name is Betty Boop, and I am a child of God! 

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Hi there! It sounds like you've been through a lot in the past few months, but it's great to hear that you are focusing on yourself and your own well-being. It takes a lot of courage to leave a situation that is harmful, and it's wonderful that you have found a peaceful and safe home for yourself. Remember to take things one day at a time and be kind to yourself as you move forward. It's okay to feel anxious about bumping into your ex in the future, but it's also important to remember that you are in control of your own thoughts and emotions. Keep focusing on your own growth and healing, and trust that everything will work out in its own time. Best of luck to you!

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