He says he's willing to do what it takes...

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Hey all,

 

It's been very busy since the wedding. I'm sorry I haven't posted as much as I should.

 

I have been having some emotional ups and downs since the wedding. I think because now we can finally be intimate with each other, my heart is opening up and I am just a TON more vulnerable. I have so many issues relating to sex because of his adultery and abuse during our marriage. I feel like I need to be a sex vixen/porn star wife in order to satisfy him and keep him here and married to me...it is causing me some serious issues. The night before last night, I finally just broke down, and it all came out, and I realized that i still think I need to perform a certain way, and be a certain type of wife in order to keep him. I've been putting pressure on myself sexually, and also in the house...cooking perfect meals, cleaning, keeping the kids orderly and well behaved...and it has been really hard on me. Finally, the other night, it all came crashing down and I was able to put it into words and tell Damon. He was great...he reassured me and told me that there was NOTHING that I had to do in order to "earn" his love. He loves me as I am. He doesn't need me to be a sex goddess or Martha Stewart or anything other than who I am. It was very good to know it, but even harder to believe it. He apologized for ever putting me in the position of feeling like I had to be a certain way in order to keep him. He did really well. But, I'm still hurting. I guess what hurts the most for me is that sex is still just really "affected" by this for me. It is not the same. It is not as fun and free and the way it used to be for me and I don't know how to get it back to that place. I guess it will just take time. Damon is being really great about things, and we are getting along well...I just wish that we could start over and there weren't any bad effects from the two years of marriage BEFORE this one.

 

Oh well! God will make all things new, right?

 

We are still looking for a rental house down on Marco...and that is going well. We are trying to be very careful about our finances and what decisions we make. The kids are doing great. Not much is going on with my parents...since the wedding, we haven't done anything together and nothing has been planned. My mom and I do things together with the kids, but nothing including my dad and Damon.

 

I'm looking forward to the weekend...getting to spend time with my husband and family and REST!

 

Take Care,

Julie

[MaryJane]

Mrs. Clean wrote:

It is not the same. It is not as fun and free and the way it used to be for me and I don't know how to get it back to that place. I guess it will just take time. Damon is being really great about things, and we are getting along well...I just wish that we could start over and there weren't any bad effects from the two years of marriage BEFORE this one.

 

Hi Julie,

 

I believe I understand. I also think the words I highlighted are the key. As Damon continues to be a safe haven for you, to love you without conditions, you will be able to relax, emotionally and physically. You will feel freer and freer to be yourself and to have FUN!

 

To allow the past to disintegrate into the dust of the past.

 

My hearty congratulations, by the way, on your Brand New Marriage!!

 

Sincerely,

MaryJane

[Kay]

Hi Julie,

 

I'm sorry that you're hurting, and know that I will pray for you. Glad to hear that Damon is still doing great. THAT has to be so healing for you, because we all have said, that we will see the real Damon after he marries you, and look, he's still here! and by the sound of it, isn't planning on going anywhere! It was very easy to see how this abusive man has turned into a humble man of God. There is no way that he could have "acted" that way. I'm sure that your father saw it too, but pride is stopping him from admitting this to you. Give him time.

 

I do have a suggestion for Damon, in regards to the bedroom stuff. Just like we always say that a man should put his feelings on the back burner for a season, I'd like to see him put his "wants" on the back burner for a season, too, and make the bedroom stuff all about you. And, Julie, try hard to just relax and recieve it. He needs to continue to put (note I said, "continue" because I believe he's most likely doing this already, you first, in all areas of sex. I'm not saying that you should leave him taking a shower or anything like that, but certainly take the pressure off of yourself to "bless" him, for awhile.

 

Bob needed to do this for me, for quite a long time, and is still doing it, actually, because of all of his m/s issues, and also because of his unfaithfulness, etc... It has brought a ton of healing for me. He gives gives gives, and that is where Damon needs to be right now. (Okay, maybe just two gives, instead of three, but he's working on improving that. lol

 

Julie, your husband loves you, he has proven this, and is not going anywhere. He's not going to run away on you, because he's bored with you. Besides, True love has nothing to do with "sex", and boy am I learning this! It's about compassion. About tenderness. About nurturing. It's when the "hug" is really a "I adore you" not an "I want you" See the difference?? This is what I have been getting lately, and I can tell you from my own experience, that it beats any great sex he could ever give me.

 

Allow your husband to show you how special you are by these other ways, and I think some of the pressure you are putting on yourself will start to disappear.

 

This "New Damon" is a gift from the good Lord above, so smile and say, "Thank you Jesus!"

 

Love you,

Kay

Edited August 13, 2010 by Kay

[J_W]

Dear Julie,

I am also sad to know that you are going through this pain... AND am very glad to hear that Damon IS STEPPING up and apologizing and validating you.

 

Now that he is the new husband, he is still going to have to bring healing for the "former husband" even though right now he is not causing you pain. It is my prayer for you that the healing will come quickly as Damon sincerely shows you his loving understanding and heartfelt apologies.

 

satan is the one wanting to bring the bad memories -- BUT GOD INTENDS THIS FOR GOOD --- it's only been a few days, and it is OKAY TO HAVE the meltdown -- you deserve it!

And you deserve for your NEW husband to nurture you through it (especially, since he caused it) ... and HE WILL do this.

 

"May the Lord bless you abundantly beyond what you can even hope or think, all to His glory"

 

(and this incl fun & free! )

 

In Him,

June of

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

My husband rocks!!!!!

 

He fixed my dad's boat (the airconditioning in it)today. He ROCKS!!!! So, my parents, my husband, my kids and I were all on a boat together for a while. My husband reports my dad even SPOKE to him!

 

We have been working on the sex issues...needless to say that the oxytocin has been FLOWIN' around here!

 

 

Take care,

Julie and Mr. Clean

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

So, after I posted about my husband "rocking", I read him the last few posts on our thread. He commented about my post the other day where I talked about my problems with sex. He felt like i was being deceptive because there was MORE to my sex issues than just the abuse that he put me through when he had the affairs. I was SO HURT. Yes, there are issues that came before him, and there are some that I opened my heart to him about just recently, after we were married. Issues that go very deep and stem from some very serious wounding that I had when I was a child. He was adamant that it was LYING that I wrote that post that I did, if I didn't explain those other issues.

 

I was so hurt and offended. And I really felt like the reason he felt that way was because he felt insulted that the internet world would think that HE was the problem for me sexually. I feel like he felt his "manhood" was threatened or something. I don't know. I just felt REALLY hurt. REALLY.

 

So, that escalated into a little argument. I walked away and refused to argue anymore about it. I went and layed down in bed and he said, "good, finally!" like I needed the nap (and that was all that was wrong with me!). Then the boys woke up and I needed to care for them. I made them dinner and he apologized a few times but I just couldn't talk to him. He tried a few more times to apologize, and even went out to the yard and picked some flowers and brought them to me. I was still too upset. A while later, I was able to accept his apology and tell him I loved him, too. Then I explained to him how it took so much for me to tell him about those issues...that I had never ever told anyone about in my entire life. It was embarassing and difficult, but I shared, and it was very difficult to feel like he wanted me to relive all of that stuff HERE on the forum, too. I felt that it was simple enough to say that I was having issues with sex because of the adultery, because IN MY MIND that is where it all stemmed. In his mind, it is a bigger, deeper problem than that...but in my mind, I was thinking, "does it really matter?" It doesn't matter to me where the problem originated...and ultimately in my mind, this argument all came down to him not wanting it to be all his fault...which I get. But still, I felt like it shouldn't matter to him. If he is the man I believe he is, he is man enough to take responsibility for ALL of my hurts and wounding, his fault or not. That is what I need him to do...stand with me while I'm healed of it all.

 

I think he understood this as much as he could. I'm not sure I understand all of this. But he apologized again and again, and told me he was sorry for being an "idiot" (I think that is the word he used). He held me and cuddled with me and made sure things were right between us before we went to bed that night. Before we fell asleep, we were joking with each other and everything seemed well again.

 

Today is another day! He's off working and I have to take Kasie to buy some shoes for school!

 

Damon is looking at a house today, and we will know today if we are moving to Marco Island sooner rather than later. Please pray for us. Damon goes on call this week again, and I pray it is the last week that we will have to be apart while we are married.

 

Take Care,

Julie

[Kay]

Hi Julie,

 

Sorry that Damon hurt you, but glad that he did the right thing by apologizing and turning things around. The reason that Damon got upset with you, is because of Pride! His pride was hurt, and he didn't like it. He didn't want to take the blame for someone else's problems, and he was determined to make sure you knew that. But, God calls the husband to stand in the gap for those who hurt you beforehand. And, you're right....It doesn't matter why, all that matters is that you are hurting and need tons of healing in the sex area. When I read your email, you never even came across as blaming Damon, but made us understand that he was trying but it was you who felt like you had these issues. Yes, there was reference to Damon and the affairs, but why shouldn't there be? He DID have affairs, and he DOES need to bring you healing. IF he heals you of your past wounds, then all the better. He was wrong, but I think you both know that.

 

Another thing that men do, which is what we talked about on the phone last night, is that Guys always want to FIX us. Kimberly gave the analogy of an iron.... wife irons her favorite blouse and ends up putting a iron burn on it. She calls her gf on the phone and tells her, and she validates, and offers sympathy and how she can relate, and maybe, she will share stories of her own, but the fact is that her understanding and compassion for the situation makes us feel better... Then, when the husband comes home, and the same story gets told, the husband says, "Well, did you put water in the iron?" and we are, "of COURSE, I DID, do you think I'm some kind of idiot?" and they say, "Well, are you sure it wasn't too hot? or, you need to make sure you don't iron too long, or yes, you need to be careful that, etc... etc.... and all this does is make us mad, because we just wanted to be "heard" not "fixed" - Most men are guilty of this. I know mine is.

 

So, anyway, glad that you are feeling better, and I hope that you have a much better day. Let the sun shine down on you today! (with a soft cool breeze, )

 

Love you,

Kay

Edited August 16, 2010 by Kay

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Hey all! I'm sorry I don't seem to post that much anymore. This married life thing takes a lot of my time! And I'm sure you all are happy to know that I'm more than happy to give up forum time for hubby time!!!!!

 

It is crazy though right now for both of us. Damon works every day, he leaves the house at 7am and returns at around 6:30 PM because of the long drive. We are trying to fix that situation and move down there close to where he works, but that has proven to be more difficult than we thought. We have prayed that God will prepare a home for us down there, and we know He will...and every time we think we've found one, He closes the door on that one...so we are thankful that God is not letting us make a BAD decision. I'm going ahead and starting my daughter in school here, by where we live and when God reveals his plan for us as far as living arrangements go, then we will move. It is really neat to be living our lives using God as our guide instead of our own selfish desires and whims. We both are very happy and we feel very "grown up" now.

 

Financially we seem to be getting used to living the "crown" ministry way. We are keeping receipts, bargain shopping and TRYING to stick to our spending plan. Even without being perfect, I am watching our bank account grow week by week instead of dwindle, and because Damon has been selling all of his excess vehicles (toys) we have even begun to pay off my credit cards and start a savings account. God is blessing us and we feel honored that he is teaching us to be better stewards of our finances. We have been tithing without fail, and we are thankful that God continues to provide work for Damon and good sales for me so that I can stay without our grocery budget! Things couldn't be any better!

 

Things right after the wedding were difficult in the sex area for me. There were several things going on with me that I can't really go into detail about...but we are slowly but surely working on them. Damon is really focused on healing me. He is being a man in every sense of the word. He gives me what I need sexually by putting my needs first, whatever they are...and he has not been reacting (not his job, right?)out of hurt or insult if my response isn't what he expected.

 

(oopps...husband calling, more in a minute)

[Looney_Tunes]

Hi Julie! [smilie=hi ya!.gif]

 

I'm glad everything's going well, but I miss our Friday night girl-date! I don't usually hang out in this section of the forum unless I need to yell at HD , so I had some catching up to do. I'm glad Damon was able to love you over the bump - unfortunately the bumps are gonna happen, but it seems like he's learned to handle them well.

 

Anyway, just wanted to pop in here and give you a cyber-hug! {{{Julie}}}

[MaryJane]

We both are very happy and we feel very "grown up" now.

Aww, nice!

[dory]

And I really felt like the reason he felt that way was because he felt insulted that the internet world would think that HE was the problem for me sexually

 

Yip. Wanna definitely nip that one Damon from where it comes, BEFORE it comes. Bear down on that temptation to feel insulted by your bride.

 

If you guys are anything like us, the problem is two-fold. First the wife is somehow wounded severely in childhood in such a way that she now gravitate towards the very type of man who would further hurt her in marriage. Many different senarios can be involved here, but all are choreographed impeccably by the enemy towards the otherwise ignorant fools that we were at the time that we met.

 

Regardless, the solution is STILL the same.

 

Husbands proactively lay your life down to heal the wounds YOU created in her, along with the wounds she received in childhood.

 

Wives, overcome your fears and respond positively to his efforts to support his new walk and to bring healing to your past.

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Dory, you are SO right.

 

I was very wounded in childhood, first by my father then by my mother (and not on purpose, they are wonderful people...they just were wounded, too)...then by an abuser. I gravitate toward men (of course, not anymore because I only gravitate toward my awesome husband) who hurt me in the same way because that is FAMILIAR to me. In fact, that is kind of, in a round about way what the sexual problem was. I have a hard time viewing myself as lovely, acceptable, sexy, and worthy of Damon wanting to MAKE LOVE to me. I'm good at "having sex" but when it comes to making love as a ONE FLESH, I have trouble with perceiving myself as someone who would be worth of that.

 

I know, I am. And Damon is gently working with me toward that goal, and I am happy to report that sex is getting much better. It was never bad, but I was dreading it because I was afraid that my response wouldn't be exactly what Damon was looking for. He keeps telling me that if we are having sex, he is happy...but apprently, I can't get that through my thick skull!

 

Today (and last night, really) I had a problem where I felt pulled in different directions by Damon and my own needs. When he comes home from work, he wants to be with me and spend time with me, and I want to with him, too...but I also have spent all day with the boys and want some time to myself as well. But he would say things that seemed TO ME like critical words about how much time I spend checking e mail (because I have "all day" to do that when he's not here ), and about my book reading and stuff.

 

Finally, today, we were going to lay down for a nap and I got my computer out to check e mail because some stuff was going on on the forum and I wanted to check my e mail. But I couldn't because he had turned off the power switch to the phone (I could easily turn it back on, but I could tell he didn't want me to), he told me that I should see a counselor about my "addiction" to the internet (jokingly). Then I got a book out and started reading and when he layed down, he tried to take my book away so that I could nap. I turned to him and said, "you know, it is abuse for you to make me feel like you disapprove of things I do." We talked for a few minutes and he said, "Thank you for pointing that out, I'm sorry if I made you feel that way." I rolled over, picked up my book and started reading. He didn't sigh or humph or anything...I was able to finish my chapter and then I fell asleep. We all took a nap.

 

This, in my opinion is how it should work. I felt hurt by his words...whether he meant them to hurt me or not...and I told him, and he listened, and heard me, and apologized and everything was right with the world. It is amazing how little effort this takes when I tell him what is bothering me right away before it simmers into a big, hot mess.

 

We are all up now, and Damon is taking the toilet off of it's base because Daniel flushed toy keys down it. Yay. He is my hero, though!

 

Love,

Julie

[dory]

Awesome job. Thanks for sharing!

[Mr. Clean]

Hi All! Thanks for all the support, and for those who made it to our rainy wedding! I was worried Julie would be dissappointed because we couldn't have it on the beach, but it all worked out. She was absolutely beautiful!!!!! Smokin hot! Even though her arm paid the ultimate price (three bad curling iron burns), her hair looked amazing! She even baked a magnificent wedding cake, which is now my new favorite cake! Mrs. Kronk rocks!!!!!! Feels good to say that!

 

We have been busy with work and kids. Trying to figure out where we are going to make a permanent residence, and when. Kasie starts school tomorrow. I think Julie made a wise decision to start her in the Vineyards school where she went last year. My beautiful wife has been working sooooo hard keeping up with kids and our home. She has been doing a great job keeping a very close eye on our finances and spending. I am so proud of her for working so hard! What a great mother, wife, and helpmeet!!!! I know it's been a huge adjustment living with me again. She works and worries very hard. I just hope she doesn't get tired or bored of me. I know she has those same fears. I have been sick this weekend, and have been a couch potatoe. Sorry for that sweetheart! I think our whole house has had a bug.

 

It was a blessing to spend some time with my in-laws! Looks like fences are being mended all around. It was the first time Julie's dad had spoken directly to me in over a year. And he even smiled a few times! Thank God I was able to fix his air conditioner! I said a little prayer beforehand. Can't wait to go fishin in Grandpa's new boat!! lol. My sexy wife was thrilled we all spent some time together! What a blessing it is to see her smile! Nothing pleases me more than to see her beautiful face when she smiles! I love my family! It's so awesome seeing and spending so much time with them. Even if we don't do anything! Our little boys have been so sweet and lovey towards me! That feels great!!!! I never had that before. Makes me really realize what a waist of life I have been in the past, as a husband and a father. Yuck! Glad He's dead!!!!!! On with the OHM!!!!!! Time to go give my luscious wife some oxytosin!!!!

 

Mr. Clean

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Damon,

 

I love when you post!

 

Thank you so much for the oxytocin.

 

I love you! And I will never get "bored" with you. You are truly one of the most interesting and wonderful human beings I have ever known and I love you INSIDE and OUT. I am thrilled to be one flesh with you.

 

You make me proud, every single day...and I am ecstatic to be your wife.

 

The only criticism I would give is that we need to be ML at least every other day right now. I think I need it if you can handle it, just because it helps me with some of the problems I've been having. If that's okay with you!

 

Obviously, I know when you're on call, that might not work, but any other weeks, I'd like to aim for at least every other day. It makes both of us so much more happy and CLOSER!!!

 

Take Care,

Julie

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Oh, and it truly is the greatest blessing to watch my children with Damon...the boys, particularly. They ADORE their daddy. And I can tell he really adores them. Jacob, the two year old especially loves his daddy. He will climb up on him and sit on his tummy and cuddle with him and watch TV. Both boys run to the door smiling to see daddy when he comes home. It truly is one of the best moments of my day.

 

My daughter, she is going to take much more work. She has a lot of hurt from Damon being around before...hurts that we don't even know about. Hurts that I don't even think Damon realizes he's done, or doing. Tonight, the night before the first day of school, Kasie wanted me to paint her fingernails BP colors with the phrase I <3 BP on them. She LOVES BP...she thinks that if we support BP, they'll clean up the oil spill more quickly. When I finished her nails, she was all excited and I asked her if she wanted to show Damon and she said "no, he will just tell me that it's silly to like BP." I told her NO he would not, he would love it. She marched out there and showed him her nails and he said exactly what she was afraid of...and while she didn't say anything, I know that inside, it must have hurt her. When we got back to her room, she said she didn't want to see Damon again.

 

He came in and said he was sorry, he was just being silly and that he thought they looked really pretty.

 

She felt better when she went to bed, but it made me realize that she picks up more than we give her credit for.

 

So, we need to work on that.

 

Take Care,

Julie

[C2]

Julie, you said,

 

Finally, today, we were going to lay down for a nap and I got my computer out to check e mail because some stuff was going on on the forum and I wanted to check my e mail. But I couldn't because he had turned off the power switch to the phone (I could easily turn it back on, but I could tell he didn't want me to), he told me that I should see a counselor about my "addiction" to the internet (jokingly).

 

Thank you for the time you give to hurting hearts here on this forum. Julie, this is your calling, all the people you help here on the forum. This is God’s work. Some day all else will be gone.

 

People here NEED you. Thank you for the sacrifice of your time. Damon, thank you for sharing Julie with us. We know it takes her precious time but she is so gifted in what she does.

 

I have read many of your posts and I believe you are drawn to the computer because God puts the words and the timing in your heart. Please continue to follow that instinct.

[dory]

AMEN and double ditto to what C2 said! (C2, while we totally understand, we DID miss you at her wedding!)

 

It was the first time Julie's dad had spoken directly to me in over a year. And he even smiled a few times! Thank God I was able to fix his air conditioner! I said a little prayer beforehand. Can't wait to go fishin in Grandpa's new boat!! lol

 

Now that IS A HUGE MIRACLE.. More proof that with most miracles, God works them THRU all of us, male and female, his human bride.

 

she picks up more than we give her credit for.

 

OH I fully believe that God makes up for in some areas where we might have been short-changed in others.

 

For example, when I meet a blind person, I feel as though they can "see into me" far better than a seeing person. Theya re amazingly perceptive, remembering us by sounds and smells with the memory of a steel trap.

 

Casey may well have extra sensory perceptions that we could only WISH for. We are often too (selfishly) busy with worldly goings ons (even "worrying" falls into this category) to fully tap into all that God gave us in the perception realm. She's got it going on. Damon needs to die to self for her too. A healed Casey has so MUCH to offer. Joshua would probably be a great resource on how he had to really die to self for his wounded boys.

[TimothyPaul]

My daughter, she is going to take much more work. She has a lot of hurt from Damon being around before...hurts that we don't even know about. Hurts that I don't even think Damon realizes he's done, or doing.

 

I can totally relate to this one, Mrs. Clean. I have been working on this with my daughter for a year now, and am barely making progress. The kids are not as forgiving as you because they don't understand the process Damon is going through. You naturally extend grace and tolerance because you understand the teachings we are all learning here. Its just very black & white for kids. They just see the actions, and base their healing on that.

 

But being that Damon is there every day, just by behaving properly, he will heal her heart. It just takes time and patience. I've seen this growth with my son because he is with me, and I do work on it with him everyday. And it has had such wonderful results, but it has taken a year.

 

Just make sure he doesn't get frustrated with her. As long as he is aware that she only understands her emotions, he'll be fine and it will work out great.

 

 

TP

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Thanks everyone for the compliments! I AM so drawn to helping others, and I do believe that somehow it is my calling from God, but I am waiting on Him to tell me what he wants me to do about it. (i.e. get a degree, etc) Right now, I think He wants me to help my marriage and my family...and THAT takes a lot of energy as we well know!

 

And thanks TP and Dory for the suggestions for Damon with Kasie. She is such a tough nut to crack, as those of you who met her will probably know. Her father, my mother and I are usually the only ones who "get" her...but I think Damon can if he will really listen to me and hear me when I try to explain things to him from her perspective.

 

She was happy about going off to the FIFTH grade today...and thrilled about her nails. But again, this morning when she got up, she covered her head with a blanket until Damon left. Kind of a Kasie "silly" thing, but I know there's more behind it, and I really would like to work on it to help them get along better.

 

Maybe I will see if he can post more about it on the forum, but it will have to be before Wednesday, because I think he goes on call this coming week.

 

Take Care,

Julie

[dory]

Kind of a Kasie "silly" thing, but I know there's more behind it, and I really would like to work on it to help them get along better.

 

TP's advice fits here...

 

As long as he is aware that she only understands her emotions, he'll be fine and it will work out great.

 

Damon needs to remember WHO the adult is here and be sure not to reduce himself to her emotional age level. If he is insulted by her actions, then he is not living with her with understanding. IF his feelings are HURT by a child, then he needs to recognize that as a flag of his arrested condition in not taking the time to try and understand the child's perspective/feelings over his own.

[Kay]

Okay, I know I'm a little slow, here, but what exactly does BP stand for? all I could think of was "bright pink" and I'm guessing that's not it. lol Is this a brand name? cartoon? Oh, and if it makes you feel any better, guess what Becky does when I hurt her feelings? she puts a blanket over her head so I can't see her. hmmmmm maybe it's a girl thing? These girls want us to know that they are hurting, but at the same time, they don't want to give us the satisfaction of acting like they care, when we apologize, so they act like they don't care and want us to go away, but deep down inside, they want and need those apologies so badly. I actually know grown woman (not to mention any names - ) who have respond the same way, when feeling hurt. I truly believe that the L.O.V.E.R. can be used on our children, too.

 

Glad that Mr. Clean is bringing tons of healing to you, Julie, and that your parents are starting to soften as well. Your family is blessed, and I am so very thankful that I was part of your journey. It touches my heart very deelply, as did me being asked to be a witness on the Marriage Certificate. Knowing that I made a difference in someone else's life, brings me to a whole new level. I know you can relate, cause as so many others have pointed out, you, too, are such a huge blessing to so many!

 

Love you,

Kay

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

Love ya, too...KK.

 

Her nails were Dark green, light green and yellow...with BP...meaning british petroleum...aka, the makers of the recent oil spill!

 

She really IS a nut!

 

Damon didn't get insulted, he just went over to her and said something nice to her about a movie that they are looking forward to seeing together in September. But this will be so good for him to read...so I'm going to tell him about it.

 

Take Care,

Julie

[J_W]

children are responders..... just like wives are

 

 

He's gotten real good at being the initiator with you the responder, and that is exactly how he needs to continue with your daughter (he's already on his way to having an OHDD ---

 

June of

[Guest Mrs.Clean]

I had an idea...I asked Damon if I could write "I <3 BP" on his fingernails. He aquiesced...but only on his toe! But I can't wait to show Kasie in the morning!

 

Now THAT is a man!!!

 

MY man!

 

Oh, here is a picture of my littlest man, because he's sooooo cute!

 

 

Take Care,

Julie